In too deep - 10/04/19 03:22 AM
I debated and debated about coming here but finally decided to do so to give myself some extra peace outside of my weekly family therapy sessions besides everyone is practically tired of hearing this story and is advising me to just go ahead and divorce .
So my husband and I have been together since high school and we have literally been bound by the hips ever since. I’m 33 he is 34 we have 6 beautiful children ages 2-16 and if your a math genius then you guessed right we were teenage parents !
Christmas Eve of 2018 my husband lost his grandma who had raised him and was a very big part of his life.
The day we buried her I knew something was changing in my husband unfortunately at that time I did not have the knowledge that I have now.
We spent New Years happy and Every thing had been going good Valentine came around and I got gifts galore the strange thing is by February 16th a flip had switched in him and by March he dropped the emotional bomb and I found out about the OW.
Now I must make this clear infidelity has never ever been a problem in my marriage my husband for the most part was attentive, the sexual chemistry was there, we laughed, joked, finished each other’s sentences we were really in sync.
After me finding out My husband came home for a few days but then woke me out my sleep and told me he couldn’t do our marriage anymore but yet had been saying how much he wanted the marriage to work.
The next day he gathered all his clothes and left the house to be with the OW. the OW was a shock to my core and what I did about it brings me so much shame and I won’t go into details but yes it was in retaliation to the OW and it landed me in jail for the weekend. It took me 33 years to get an arrest record and I feel so ashamed.
But anyway he stayed gone for about 2 months and shortly after our 5 year wedding anniversary in May we got back together.
During this time there was a change he would go from not to cold, was irritable with the children, irritated with me and to top it off we were living in different places the stress was real.
Well.that fairytale didn’t last long because by August we fell out AGAIN the cops were called and you guessed right my husband is back with the OW and he is saying things like I trapped him with the kids, I love you but I’m not in love with you, there is a lot of blame toward me and hatred to say the least.
Most recently things have taken a turn for the worse because we have absolutely NO communication he has turned his phone off and does not contact me or the children at all.
At this point I’m moving forward I’m working, getting my masters degree, taking care of the children and just trying to do any and everything I can think of to keep us on track while he gets his life together and I’m not saying that I am waiting on him I just know the relationship that we had was not indicative of the situation we are in now.
I feel lost and too far gone I read things that clearly indicate him being in a MLC but I’m not exactly sure as today I came across exit affairs. If someone can please offer me prayers tips clarity on what to do in this situation I would greatly appreciate it I just don’t know what to do
So my husband and I have been together since high school and we have literally been bound by the hips ever since. I’m 33 he is 34 we have 6 beautiful children ages 2-16 and if your a math genius then you guessed right we were teenage parents !
Christmas Eve of 2018 my husband lost his grandma who had raised him and was a very big part of his life.
The day we buried her I knew something was changing in my husband unfortunately at that time I did not have the knowledge that I have now.
We spent New Years happy and Every thing had been going good Valentine came around and I got gifts galore the strange thing is by February 16th a flip had switched in him and by March he dropped the emotional bomb and I found out about the OW.
Now I must make this clear infidelity has never ever been a problem in my marriage my husband for the most part was attentive, the sexual chemistry was there, we laughed, joked, finished each other’s sentences we were really in sync.
After me finding out My husband came home for a few days but then woke me out my sleep and told me he couldn’t do our marriage anymore but yet had been saying how much he wanted the marriage to work.
The next day he gathered all his clothes and left the house to be with the OW. the OW was a shock to my core and what I did about it brings me so much shame and I won’t go into details but yes it was in retaliation to the OW and it landed me in jail for the weekend. It took me 33 years to get an arrest record and I feel so ashamed.
But anyway he stayed gone for about 2 months and shortly after our 5 year wedding anniversary in May we got back together.
During this time there was a change he would go from not to cold, was irritable with the children, irritated with me and to top it off we were living in different places the stress was real.
Well.that fairytale didn’t last long because by August we fell out AGAIN the cops were called and you guessed right my husband is back with the OW and he is saying things like I trapped him with the kids, I love you but I’m not in love with you, there is a lot of blame toward me and hatred to say the least.
Most recently things have taken a turn for the worse because we have absolutely NO communication he has turned his phone off and does not contact me or the children at all.
At this point I’m moving forward I’m working, getting my masters degree, taking care of the children and just trying to do any and everything I can think of to keep us on track while he gets his life together and I’m not saying that I am waiting on him I just know the relationship that we had was not indicative of the situation we are in now.
I feel lost and too far gone I read things that clearly indicate him being in a MLC but I’m not exactly sure as today I came across exit affairs. If someone can please offer me prayers tips clarity on what to do in this situation I would greatly appreciate it I just don’t know what to do