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Posted By: T384 Moving forward - 02/23/18 05:16 PM
Hi Everyone! I received a random email from MWD and figured I️ should post a little update here. I won’t bore everyone with all the details over the last several months and my post here will hopefully help others to know there can be some peace after heartache.

I graduated! I’m officially a NP and offered my dream job at my dream practice 5 minutes from home. Goodbye 1.5 hour each way commute! I’m pretty proud of myself seeing that the practice sought me out and I negotiated my salary And benefits and I made out very well.

I’m also divorced. ExH got more custody than i wanted (65/35) but it was a ploy to pay less CS and he’s already not taking the boys as much although I will say he has stepped up some. He moved to PA in December for a whopping 10 days. He moved back days after the temporary child support and alimony was ordered (4K/month) and suddenly wanted 50/50 custody. He’s on GF #3? He was throughout the divorce very cold and we rarely spoke unless about the boys. I did not put up with any BS from him and ignored him unless it was kid related for the most part. He suddenly has taken an interest in being friendly. Since the D he has messaged me everyday. He seems to find reasons to stop by and most recently text me last weekend asking if I’m happy. I ignored. He’s offered to do some things around the house and fix some things. I’m not ready to be buddy buddy but have been very cordial and friendly especially with the kids around. The boys still aren’t happy about having to stay overnight with him and we are all trying to adjust.

As far as me, I’m happy. I’m sad for this life for my boys including the baby who will never know his parents together. I have a wonderful man in my life who has been by my side supporting me these last few months.

Are there things I would change and do differently? For sure. But I’m making the best with the cards I’ve been dealt. I rest my head at night knowing I did everything to keep my family together. I look back at disgust with myself for allowing what I did at the end of my pregnancy.

I hope everyone is well and although I didn’t save my marriage I’ve still come out the other side. Is it perfect? Nope. But I have learned a lot about myself and have accomplished so much despite the shitty circumstances of these past 10 months. I hope this helps some of you.
Posted By: artista Re: Moving forward - 02/23/18 05:36 PM
Wow! You do not know me, but I have followed your situation from the beginning... I am happy for you... And congratulations on your NP accomplishment... I remember how you studied and worked while pregnant, raising your boys while dealing with your H... Again, I am happy for you... A lot of people here are going to feel relieved to have heard from you... Here's to a beautiful life...
Posted By: Henwen Re: Moving forward - 02/24/18 03:26 AM
Loved to see your update and am glad you came out the other side smile although we all knew you would. You are a very strong woman. Cheers to you!
Posted By: Sotto Re: Moving forward - 02/24/18 07:42 AM
Hi T, I'm glad to see an update from you and I'm thrilled to read the news about your job - go you!!!

It is good that things are resolved with the divorce. Yours seemed to go through quite quickly and I look back and feel that is a blessing for me. I have friends mired in ongoing divorce matters, with courts involved - and that must be draining.

I realised the biggest thing for me has been who I am, what have I done with this difficult challenge, what did I learn, where is my life at now. Am I at peace and is there joy in my life?

It sounds like you have trodden a difficult path in a healthy way - we can't ask more of ourselves than that.

Release, forgive, move forward - and enjoy what life has to offer. Smell the roses when you can.

Xxx
Posted By: sandi2 Re: Moving forward - 02/24/18 02:54 PM
Hey there Sweetie-pie. So good to hear from you. I always knew you would be fine once you made the break from him. You are such a good mother, and a fair decent human being........he should be grateful for what he gets.

I know your life is major busy with work and the kids, but sure love it when you drop in to say hello.

Take many hugs with you, b/c you are special in my book! ((((hugs))))
Posted By: BluWave Re: Moving forward - 02/26/18 10:44 AM
(((T)))

I am so glad you stopped by and updated. I am also glad you and the boys are well. You are such a fighter. I think of you whenever I stop by here and wonder how things are.

Can someone merge your threads for others to read? You are an inspiration! I think it would be great for newbies to read your path.

Blu
Posted By: Holding Re: Moving forward - 02/27/18 03:19 AM
T, thanks for updating us. I was recently wondering about you, since you hadn't posted in a while. It's sounds like you're in a very good place.

Just curious, how does XH hope to get 50/50 now that the D is final?
Posted By: woundedfool Re: Moving forward - 04/27/18 02:03 PM
TO I've been peeking my head in every now and again hoping you would give and update. So very happy you did!
Posted By: sandi2 Re: Moving forward - 04/28/18 06:41 AM
Posted By: sandi2 Re: Moving forward - 04/28/18 06:42 AM
Well, dang......that's the first time it's happened to me.
Posted By: sandi2 Re: Moving forward - 04/28/18 06:49 AM
Posted By: sandi2 Re: Moving forward - 04/28/18 06:49 AM
Posted By: sandi2 Re: Moving forward - 04/28/18 06:51 AM
Doesn't this thing know I have no patients......or patience?
Posted By: sandi2 Re: Moving forward - 04/28/18 06:51 AM
Posted By: sandi2 Re: Moving forward - 04/28/18 06:52 AM
tired
Posted By: artista Re: Moving forward - 04/28/18 09:56 AM
Originally Posted By: sandi2
Well, dang......that's the first time it's happened to me.



That's what they all say... smile
Posted By: sandi2 Re: Moving forward - 04/28/18 10:03 AM
laugh. Artista, you wicked girl.
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