Moving forward - 02/23/18 05:16 PM
Hi Everyone! I received a random email from MWD and figured I️ should post a little update here. I won’t bore everyone with all the details over the last several months and my post here will hopefully help others to know there can be some peace after heartache.
I graduated! I’m officially a NP and offered my dream job at my dream practice 5 minutes from home. Goodbye 1.5 hour each way commute! I’m pretty proud of myself seeing that the practice sought me out and I negotiated my salary And benefits and I made out very well.
I’m also divorced. ExH got more custody than i wanted (65/35) but it was a ploy to pay less CS and he’s already not taking the boys as much although I will say he has stepped up some. He moved to PA in December for a whopping 10 days. He moved back days after the temporary child support and alimony was ordered (4K/month) and suddenly wanted 50/50 custody. He’s on GF #3? He was throughout the divorce very cold and we rarely spoke unless about the boys. I did not put up with any BS from him and ignored him unless it was kid related for the most part. He suddenly has taken an interest in being friendly. Since the D he has messaged me everyday. He seems to find reasons to stop by and most recently text me last weekend asking if I’m happy. I ignored. He’s offered to do some things around the house and fix some things. I’m not ready to be buddy buddy but have been very cordial and friendly especially with the kids around. The boys still aren’t happy about having to stay overnight with him and we are all trying to adjust.
As far as me, I’m happy. I’m sad for this life for my boys including the baby who will never know his parents together. I have a wonderful man in my life who has been by my side supporting me these last few months.
Are there things I would change and do differently? For sure. But I’m making the best with the cards I’ve been dealt. I rest my head at night knowing I did everything to keep my family together. I look back at disgust with myself for allowing what I did at the end of my pregnancy.
I hope everyone is well and although I didn’t save my marriage I’ve still come out the other side. Is it perfect? Nope. But I have learned a lot about myself and have accomplished so much despite the shitty circumstances of these past 10 months. I hope this helps some of you.
I graduated! I’m officially a NP and offered my dream job at my dream practice 5 minutes from home. Goodbye 1.5 hour each way commute! I’m pretty proud of myself seeing that the practice sought me out and I negotiated my salary And benefits and I made out very well.
I’m also divorced. ExH got more custody than i wanted (65/35) but it was a ploy to pay less CS and he’s already not taking the boys as much although I will say he has stepped up some. He moved to PA in December for a whopping 10 days. He moved back days after the temporary child support and alimony was ordered (4K/month) and suddenly wanted 50/50 custody. He’s on GF #3? He was throughout the divorce very cold and we rarely spoke unless about the boys. I did not put up with any BS from him and ignored him unless it was kid related for the most part. He suddenly has taken an interest in being friendly. Since the D he has messaged me everyday. He seems to find reasons to stop by and most recently text me last weekend asking if I’m happy. I ignored. He’s offered to do some things around the house and fix some things. I’m not ready to be buddy buddy but have been very cordial and friendly especially with the kids around. The boys still aren’t happy about having to stay overnight with him and we are all trying to adjust.
As far as me, I’m happy. I’m sad for this life for my boys including the baby who will never know his parents together. I have a wonderful man in my life who has been by my side supporting me these last few months.
Are there things I would change and do differently? For sure. But I’m making the best with the cards I’ve been dealt. I rest my head at night knowing I did everything to keep my family together. I look back at disgust with myself for allowing what I did at the end of my pregnancy.
I hope everyone is well and although I didn’t save my marriage I’ve still come out the other side. Is it perfect? Nope. But I have learned a lot about myself and have accomplished so much despite the shitty circumstances of these past 10 months. I hope this helps some of you.