Marriage Crumbling - Part 5 - 06/27/16 07:21 AM
Continued from http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2687800&page=11
Doodler, it sounds like it helped though. If your mind isn't racing with anxiety and are feeling somewhat optimistic there is so much room for personal growth. You have to be in a reasonable state of mind to take advice or just really see the situation for what it is. I think the hardest part we all struggle with here is we are all blamed for the situation, and we end up blaming ourselves as a result. It's difficult to pull your head out of it. I must admit I've been blaming myself for months, complete breakdowns telling myself what an idiot I was etc etc. even though rationally I know it's not all my fault, my wife has her part in our dysfunction and problems but she does not acknowledge any of it - she just brings up a list of things I've done and there is it, the list of blame - I'm sure this what she reminds herself of everyday. Anyway, I'm seeing the doc after work today so will report back what he ends up prescribing but I know at this point I do need some help. Some days I'm strong and can handle it but most days I'm a bit of a mess however well I hide it.
Doodler, it sounds like it helped though. If your mind isn't racing with anxiety and are feeling somewhat optimistic there is so much room for personal growth. You have to be in a reasonable state of mind to take advice or just really see the situation for what it is. I think the hardest part we all struggle with here is we are all blamed for the situation, and we end up blaming ourselves as a result. It's difficult to pull your head out of it. I must admit I've been blaming myself for months, complete breakdowns telling myself what an idiot I was etc etc. even though rationally I know it's not all my fault, my wife has her part in our dysfunction and problems but she does not acknowledge any of it - she just brings up a list of things I've done and there is it, the list of blame - I'm sure this what she reminds herself of everyday. Anyway, I'm seeing the doc after work today so will report back what he ends up prescribing but I know at this point I do need some help. Some days I'm strong and can handle it but most days I'm a bit of a mess however well I hide it.