MLC is full bloom - 12/14/15 08:11 PM
Hello everyone,
My situation:
My wife and I have been together for 6 years. We have had a very easy going and open relationship without any major drama. I am 33 YOA and she just turned 40 YOA. She has four children and I have none of my own. She has always been very insecure about herself since we met but that never caused problems. She has always criticized herself and thinks she is a bad parent and a bad person in general.
She turned 40 in December 2014 however things picked up about a year ago when she started hanging out with this guy from work "Helping him" with an addiction problem. She would spend nights at a time at his house. It bothered me because I knew she was sleeping with him however She will deny to this day that she was sleeping with him. I let it go and let her do her thing and she got bored with him and dropped him like a fly. Now she is moved onto to the next victim.
As far as the signs I've seen of MLC
* Cut her hair short and dyed it purple
* Started getting "Work done" on her face (Botox)
* Distancing herself from her family and friends
* Spending A LOT of money on things for her "Friends"
* Neglecting all responsibilities (Bills, taking care of our children and dogs, house work, etc)
* Spent many days just laying in bed watching TV or playing on her phone.
* Doing anything she could to "Escape" Reality.
* Calling in sick at work a lot.
* and I know this isn't a classic symptom however she always hated "Selfies" and despised people who took them. Well this last year she has joined the selfie phase and posted them on FB. I honestly believe it's so when people like or comment it makes her feel better.
There are many more however I will sum it up as she is obviously struggling and trying to find happiness where ever that may be. She has recently decided to move out. She gave absolutely NO explanation as to why she was leaving or where our relationship was failing. I am not even sure if she knows at this point. It's been a month since she has been gone and we talk frequently however I have been distant as I believe that she needs time to work on herself.
I guess I don't have any questions but I wanted to share my story and certainly wouldn't mind any pointers if anyone feels like sharing. Thank you again.
My situation:
My wife and I have been together for 6 years. We have had a very easy going and open relationship without any major drama. I am 33 YOA and she just turned 40 YOA. She has four children and I have none of my own. She has always been very insecure about herself since we met but that never caused problems. She has always criticized herself and thinks she is a bad parent and a bad person in general.
She turned 40 in December 2014 however things picked up about a year ago when she started hanging out with this guy from work "Helping him" with an addiction problem. She would spend nights at a time at his house. It bothered me because I knew she was sleeping with him however She will deny to this day that she was sleeping with him. I let it go and let her do her thing and she got bored with him and dropped him like a fly. Now she is moved onto to the next victim.
As far as the signs I've seen of MLC
* Cut her hair short and dyed it purple
* Started getting "Work done" on her face (Botox)
* Distancing herself from her family and friends
* Spending A LOT of money on things for her "Friends"
* Neglecting all responsibilities (Bills, taking care of our children and dogs, house work, etc)
* Spent many days just laying in bed watching TV or playing on her phone.
* Doing anything she could to "Escape" Reality.
* Calling in sick at work a lot.
* and I know this isn't a classic symptom however she always hated "Selfies" and despised people who took them. Well this last year she has joined the selfie phase and posted them on FB. I honestly believe it's so when people like or comment it makes her feel better.
There are many more however I will sum it up as she is obviously struggling and trying to find happiness where ever that may be. She has recently decided to move out. She gave absolutely NO explanation as to why she was leaving or where our relationship was failing. I am not even sure if she knows at this point. It's been a month since she has been gone and we talk frequently however I have been distant as I believe that she needs time to work on herself.
I guess I don't have any questions but I wanted to share my story and certainly wouldn't mind any pointers if anyone feels like sharing. Thank you again.