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Posted By: Cadet

Abbreviations ... updated - 04/01/15 02:03 PM

((((( ))))) or {{{{{{ }}}}}} = hugs!
180 = Another Technique In DB
4Cs - Cool, Calm, Collected and Confident
ACOA = Adult Child of an Alcoholic
ADDY = Address: Email, Snail Mail, Home, Office
AOBM = Alien on Break Moment
AOM = Almost Other Man
AOS = Acts of Service
AP = Affair Partner
APT = Apartment
ATTY = Attorney
AWGTCHM = Michele's book, A Woman's Guide to Changing Her Man
BB = Bulletin Board
BD = Bomb Drop
Big D = Divorce
BIL = Brother-in-law
BTO = Big time operator
BTW = By The Way
D = Divorce Or Daughter
DB = Divorce Busting (Techniques and book by Michele)
DB'ers = Divorce Busters (People At This Site)
DB'n = Divorce Busting (the technique)
Dbing = Divorce Busting (the technique)
DD = Darling Daughter
DH = Dear Husband or Deadbeat Husband
DITHL = deer in the headlights
DR = "The Divorce Remedy" (Techniques and book by Michele)
EA = Emotional affair
EOM = Emotional Other Many
F2F = Face to Face
FAQ = Frequently Answered Questions
FN forum = For Newcomers forum
FOO = Family Of Origin
FWIW = For What Its Worth
FYI = For Your Information
GAL = Get A Life (aka "Make Yourself Happy For A Change")
Going Dark = no contact.
GH = Ghost Husband (Not Really Here Any More)
GW = Ghost Wife (Not Really Here Any More)
H = Husband
HD = High Desire
HEA = Happily Ever After
HOM = Hold Onto Myself
HP = His or her place
HTH = Hope This Helped
HW = Home-Wrecker
IAE = In Any Event
IC = Individual Counselor (or counselling)
ICQ = A chat system which stands for, "I seek you".
ILY = I Love You
ILYBNILWY = I love you but not in love with you
IM = Instant Message
IMHO = In My Humble Opinion
INS Forum = I Need Support Forum
IOW = In Other Words
KLA = Michele's Keeping Love Alive audio program
KLA forum = Keeping Love Alive Discussion Group forum
KWIM = Know what I mean
LBS = Left Behind Spouse
LD = Low Desire
LDEA long distance emotional affair
LF = Lady Friend
LL = Love Languages
LMAO = Laughing My A$$ Off
LOL = Laughing Out Loud
LR = Last Resort (technique in DB)
LRT = Last Resort Technique (What to do when all else fails)Explained in detail on page 177 in Michele's "Divorce Busting" book
MBR = = Master Bed Room
MF = Man Friend
MFC = Messenger 1st Class
MIL = Mother-in-law
ML = Making Love
MLC = Midlife Crisis
MP = My Place
MR = marriage relationship
NML = No man's land
M/V = From the book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
NPA = Not particularly attractive
NRG = Energy
OEA = Online Emotional Affair
OG = Other Guy
OM = Other man
OOM = Online Other Man
OOW = Online Other Women
OP = Other Person
OR = Our Relationship
OTT = Over the top
OW, Ow = Other Woman
PA = Physical Affair
PG = Pregnant
PMA = Positive Mental Attitude
POV = Point Of View
POW= potential OW
PWAS=potential walk away spouse
PT = Physical Touch
PTSD = Post-traumatic stress disorder
QT = Quality Time
R = Relationship
RBTL = Read Between The Lines
RIR = Room I Rent
ROFL = Rolls On Floor Laughing
S = Son
SAFE = Stay Away From Ex
SAM = silly alien monkey
SBT = Solution-oriented Brief Therapy (kind of therapy Michele does)
SIL = Sister-in-law
SIT or SITCH = Situation
SITD = Still In The Dark
SO = Significant Other
SL = Sex Life
SOB = Son of a Bitch
SSM = Sex Starved Marriage, MWD wrote a few books about it & their is a forum here for that issue.
SSW = Sisterhood of Separate Women (variations could be SDW, SSM, SDM, etc.)
STBW - Soon to be wife
STBX = Soon To Be EX
STBXOM = Soon to be ex-other man (or guy)
STBXOW = Soon to be ex-other women
STFU = Shut the %@#$ up, get duct tape & put it over your mouth
TBH = to be honest
TMI = Too much information
UCL = Unconditional Love
W = Wife
w/ = With
WAS = Walk Away Spouse
WAW = Walk Away Wife (a syndrome Michele explains in her article on this site)
WB = Write Back
WOA = Words of Affirmation
WP = Warrior Princess
WTF = What the…, Why the…, When the…, Where the…,
WTG = Way To Go
WW = Wayward Wife
2x4 = whack, wake up and listen cause a big piece of lumber just hit you in the head
Posted By: koalada

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 04/03/15 09:24 AM

Can you help me and tell me what V stands for?
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 04/03/15 11:20 AM

Originally Posted By: koalada
Can you help me and tell me what V stands for?

Not sure where you are seeing this but my guess is that it may be for our poster named Vanilla.
Posted By: koalada

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 04/03/15 01:59 PM

Oh, I see. Thanks
Posted By: gan

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 04/07/15 11:47 AM

Cadet - you da man! Good on you for taking that list on. It's so much more accessible now.

Now I just need to work in AOBM somewhere on my threads wink
Posted By: SadDood

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 04/18/15 04:26 AM

AP or MR?
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 04/18/15 08:15 AM

Originally Posted By: SadDood
AP or MR?

AP = Affair Partner
MR = Marriage Relationship
Posted By: Ripken8

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 05/14/15 05:56 PM

UA?
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 05/14/15 06:27 PM

Originally Posted By: Ripken8
UA?

I am going to guess Undivided Attention.

However it would be good to see the context that it was written in, like for movies it would be United Artists.
Posted By: Ripken8

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 05/14/15 06:38 PM

Could be.

"It does feel like they are punishing UA from time to time, but I am not sure if that is a motivation or if it is all just for them."
Posted By: angel r

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 09/25/15 02:41 PM

what is an s19?
Posted By: Azzork

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 09/25/15 02:50 PM

Originally Posted By: angel r
what is an s19?

S is "son" and 19 is his age

Ive also seen S stand for "separation" or "spouse"
Posted By: Strngr!

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 11/11/15 05:33 PM

Maybe i missed it whats
STFU
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 11/11/15 05:54 PM

Originally Posted By: SadJeff
Maybe i missed it whats
STFU


Its up there it says

STFU = Shut the %@#$ up, get duct tape & put it over your mouth

or you could replace %@#$ with firetruck smile smile smile
Posted By: Bfice3

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 02/01/16 11:37 AM

What does XF stand for?
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 02/01/16 12:08 PM

Originally Posted By: Bfice3
What does XF stand for?


Guessing but Ex - Friend
Posted By: Sotto

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 02/01/16 12:38 PM

Ex-fiancé?
Posted By: collin

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 03/14/16 07:58 PM

What about NC (not North Carolina)?
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 03/15/16 01:09 AM

Originally Posted By: collin
What about NC (not North Carolina)?


NC = NO CONTACT

or get duct tape and put over your mouth
Posted By: coffee_

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 05/26/16 12:13 PM

what about PA?
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 05/26/16 12:22 PM

Originally Posted By: coffee_
what about PA?

That is already in the list above = physical affair
Posted By: jmo

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 06/23/16 05:32 AM

Piecing means what? One is trying to piece back the marriage? DB but marriage is still in limbo?
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 06/23/16 07:17 AM

Originally Posted By: jmo
Piecing means what? One is trying to piece back the marriage? DB but marriage is still in limbo?

Their is a separate forum for piecing but yes it
means to try to put your marriage back together after
both parties have agreed to this objective.
Many times we see one person try to attempt this by themselves and that will usually result in failure.
Best to continue to DB until you begin to piece.
Posted By: CT1118

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 07/13/16 02:32 PM

This was all very helpful to understanding this place. Thank you for explaining it. I think I misread a number of things while trying to figure out the abbreviations.
Posted By: sandi2

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 09/12/16 09:09 AM

LBNG = Left Behind Nice Guy
Posted By: Zanadoo

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 09/21/16 05:20 PM

What about ONJ??
Posted By: sharong

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 09/23/16 12:10 AM

Thank you for sharing the useful information.
Posted By: Tread

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 04/18/17 03:06 PM

Can anyone explain the difference between a WAS and a WAW?
Posted By: RR17

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 07/28/17 04:11 PM

Originally Posted By: Tread
Can anyone explain the difference between a WAS and a WAW?


Walk away Wive
Walk away Spouse.
Posted By: RR17

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 07/28/17 04:14 PM

What is ia?
Posted By: Btrow

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 07/29/17 08:10 PM

IA is an imaginary affair.
Posted By: Gisela

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 02/12/18 04:01 AM

What does BS mean?
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 02/12/18 04:06 AM

Originally Posted By: Gisela
What does BS mean?

Behind spouse or short for LBS (Left Behind Spouse)
At least that is the way I always read it.
Posted By: Ste7e

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 05/12/18 10:40 AM

NGS?
Posted By: Davide

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 05/12/18 12:32 PM

Yeah. I have seen that repeatedly and have no clue either.
Posted By: sandi2

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 05/12/18 12:36 PM

NGS = Nice Guy Syndrome
Posted By: EZdozit

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 08/06/18 01:01 PM

What does IRL stand for?
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 08/06/18 03:22 PM

Originally Posted by EZdozit
What does IRL stand for?

In Real Life
Posted By: Grace21

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 10/13/18 12:06 PM

What is amoafwl please?
Posted By: EZdozit

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 10/13/18 12:07 PM

A Man only a fool would leave
Posted By: TJT

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 01/02/19 05:45 AM

IHS?
Posted By: Bo562

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 01/02/19 06:36 AM

In-House Separation, I believe

(((TJT)))
Posted By: BluWave

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 06/30/19 09:58 PM

CAGD = Cr@p. At. Going. Dark. = One who struggles to "Go Dark," as defined by author MWD.

CAGD has been coined by our lovely LBWs in June of 2019, who all share a similar struggle of noting when their cohorts should be going dark, however they just can't seem to execute it in their own situation. You ladies are the best :-)

Blu
Posted By: Rushton

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 12/26/19 03:31 PM

OD?
Posted By: job

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 12/26/19 03:33 PM

Could be overdose or odd duck. Where did you see this? I can then try to figure it out for you.
Posted By: AndrewP

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 12/26/19 05:23 PM

It could be from OwnIt's thread. My understanding is that it's just her name for her STBX.
Posted By: job

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 12/26/19 08:47 PM

Andrew, that is correct. It is not an abbreviation for the forum, but a personal nickname for OwnIt's husband.
Posted By: PLC

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 01/07/20 05:42 AM

MLT?
Posted By: Cadet

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 01/07/20 03:56 PM

Originally Posted by PLC
MLT?


I would say Mid Life Transition

which is slightly different than a MLC,
much milder and usually experienced by everyone as they go through life.
Posted By: PLC

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 01/07/20 04:02 PM

Thank you!
Posted By: JoeDredd

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 01/29/20 01:17 AM

What is 'Ring' as in 'Ring and piecing'? Piecing is explained halfway through this thread but I can't find 'ring'.

Or does it mean doing 'R' (R???ing)?

Originally Posted by Cadet
Originally Posted by jmo
Piecing means what? One is trying to piece back the marriage? DB but marriage is still in limbo?

Their is a separate forum for piecing but yes it
means to try to put your marriage back together after
both parties have agreed to this objective.
Many times we see one person try to attempt this by themselves and that will usually result in failure.
Best to continue to DB until you begin to piece.
Posted By: DS9

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 01/29/20 01:37 AM

Hey Joe

R'ing means reconciling or reconnecting with the former spouse - ie getting back together.

Cheers
Posted By: JoeDredd

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 01/30/20 02:03 AM

Thanks!
Posted By: TheTexan

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 06/03/20 11:59 PM

NGS?
Posted By: dunnm

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 06/04/20 04:56 AM

Nice Guy Syndrome, from the book No more Mr Nice Guy. Well worth a read, available free on-line if you search for it.
Posted By: TheTexan

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 06/04/20 02:05 PM

Thanks
Posted By: anadybel

Re: Abbreviations ... updated - 06/18/20 07:22 AM

LA?
Can I use it for Love and Relationship.
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