FINALLY SURFACING - 06/13/14 12:48 PM
Time for a new thread
I’m still standing
I feel good about me
I am turning into a great farther, an awesome friend and a much better man
I am getting aware of and in touch with my personal boundaries
I am still learning, studying and changing
I still feel the turmoil and therefore still focus on PMA
GAL and training is good
I am now 15 months into this and what a journey. Some part of me feels like I have travelled around the world twice on bare feet and some part of me feels like I have only the taken the first two small babysteps. I still have absolutely no idea where I will end up but as days and month’s passes, I am getting more and more confident that good waits around the next corner.
I know my path, but I don’t know where it will take me. I will travel it for as long as I feel good about it, and for as long as I believe it will take me to happiness.
My path is simple:
Father
Friend
Home, security, financials
Work
Triathlon
Educating me by reading and convo’s with shrink, this forum and friends
Evaluating and changing me
Looking up new people and new experiences and exploring my possibilities.
Sleep
Optimizing time
My personal life is so much richer today than prior to BD and when I try to look pass my feelings for W, BD and children I truly believe that I am a happier man now than then – still I would love to share this with W. That might just be a dream because I don’t know W anymore and she doesn’t know me – we might be able to R and we might not, so I guess I am not standing for W, but the chance that she, at some point, wants to talk R. I still feel I owe her, children and me that chance, so I still have patience.
We still communicate a lot. W seemingly still wants more communication and more meetups with the children, but I hold back because of the children and me. There is no sign of OM. She is very pleasant, nice and amicable towards me and has been this way for a long time. She has gotten a little nicer lately for some reason I don’t know about.
My Ds are hurting every day because of BD. They miss. They do not understand. They are thrown back and forth between two lives and have no control. I hurt with them. It tears me up just thinking about this. I hate, hate, hate what this have done and will do to the rest of their life. I see the impact on the children so clearly and it devastates me more and more.
If not for this I would be much happier and rope would properly have been dropped several months ago.
I still feel I have a long way to go and I am starting to enjoy the ride. I started at the bottom of the abyss as many before and after me and now I feel like I am finally surfacing. I can almost breathe freely without the scuba gear.
Looking back at the past 15 months makes me sad and at the same time I almost start to laugh. I have been blessed with so much well meant, sound and good advice in here, but in many of the cases I wasn’t even able to comprehend the advice and therefore I couldn’t live or do it. One thing won’t change and that’s my skull. It is thick and it is always spinning around.
I owe the greatest of gratitude to all the loving people that have helped me in here, but especially you Sandi2 will always be on my mind. I would not be where I am right now if not for you and this community.
Old threads here:
WAW / ILUBINILWY / CONFUSED!
WAW / ILUBINILWY / CONFUSED! (Thread II)
WAW / ILUBINILWY / CONFUSED! (Thread III)
WAW / ILUBINILWY / CONFUSED! (Thread IV)
NEW LIFE / NEW ME NEW LIFE / NEW ME - DEPARTURE
NEW LIFE / NEW ME - AIRBORNE
NEW LIFE / NEW ME – AIRBORNE II
NEW LIFE / NEW ME – AIRBORNE III
NEW LIFE / NEW ME – BREATHING
I’m still standing
I feel good about me
I am turning into a great farther, an awesome friend and a much better man
I am getting aware of and in touch with my personal boundaries
I am still learning, studying and changing
I still feel the turmoil and therefore still focus on PMA
GAL and training is good
I am now 15 months into this and what a journey. Some part of me feels like I have travelled around the world twice on bare feet and some part of me feels like I have only the taken the first two small babysteps. I still have absolutely no idea where I will end up but as days and month’s passes, I am getting more and more confident that good waits around the next corner.
I know my path, but I don’t know where it will take me. I will travel it for as long as I feel good about it, and for as long as I believe it will take me to happiness.
My path is simple:
Father
Friend
Home, security, financials
Work
Triathlon
Educating me by reading and convo’s with shrink, this forum and friends
Evaluating and changing me
Looking up new people and new experiences and exploring my possibilities.
Sleep
Optimizing time
My personal life is so much richer today than prior to BD and when I try to look pass my feelings for W, BD and children I truly believe that I am a happier man now than then – still I would love to share this with W. That might just be a dream because I don’t know W anymore and she doesn’t know me – we might be able to R and we might not, so I guess I am not standing for W, but the chance that she, at some point, wants to talk R. I still feel I owe her, children and me that chance, so I still have patience.
We still communicate a lot. W seemingly still wants more communication and more meetups with the children, but I hold back because of the children and me. There is no sign of OM. She is very pleasant, nice and amicable towards me and has been this way for a long time. She has gotten a little nicer lately for some reason I don’t know about.
My Ds are hurting every day because of BD. They miss. They do not understand. They are thrown back and forth between two lives and have no control. I hurt with them. It tears me up just thinking about this. I hate, hate, hate what this have done and will do to the rest of their life. I see the impact on the children so clearly and it devastates me more and more.
If not for this I would be much happier and rope would properly have been dropped several months ago.
I still feel I have a long way to go and I am starting to enjoy the ride. I started at the bottom of the abyss as many before and after me and now I feel like I am finally surfacing. I can almost breathe freely without the scuba gear.
Looking back at the past 15 months makes me sad and at the same time I almost start to laugh. I have been blessed with so much well meant, sound and good advice in here, but in many of the cases I wasn’t even able to comprehend the advice and therefore I couldn’t live or do it. One thing won’t change and that’s my skull. It is thick and it is always spinning around.
I owe the greatest of gratitude to all the loving people that have helped me in here, but especially you Sandi2 will always be on my mind. I would not be where I am right now if not for you and this community.
Old threads here:
WAW / ILUBINILWY / CONFUSED!
WAW / ILUBINILWY / CONFUSED! (Thread II)
WAW / ILUBINILWY / CONFUSED! (Thread III)
WAW / ILUBINILWY / CONFUSED! (Thread IV)
NEW LIFE / NEW ME NEW LIFE / NEW ME - DEPARTURE
NEW LIFE / NEW ME - AIRBORNE
NEW LIFE / NEW ME – AIRBORNE II
NEW LIFE / NEW ME – AIRBORNE III
NEW LIFE / NEW ME – BREATHING