Retrouvaille question - 01/31/12 09:23 PM
My husband and I are planning to go to Retrouvaille on Feb 10. I knew he would be reluctant to go, but he agreed and answered the interview questions when he was called. I just found an email between him and ow (I didn't even know there was an OW). He is telling her that this is the last hoop he is going to jump through for me. He doesnt' know that I know and I'm not going to tell him. I'm planning to continue my db activities. My question is, should we still go or will this be a complete waste of time and money?
Some background. I am a longtime lurker. We have been married 29 years and have had problems for the past 7 years. I think he has been in MLC, all the signs are there. He moved out in Sept 2011, (he is living with his mother) but still calls every day and comes for dinner periodically and then will spend the night. As far as I know, he hasn't contacted a lawyer and our finances are still together. Very confusing behavior, but I know this is to be expected in this situation. I've gotten very good at zipping my lips and not pursuing. I think the relationship with OW has just started, maybe 2-3 weeks. He is already in Love with her and she is his soulmate that he has been searching for all his life. yada yada. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated.
Some background. I am a longtime lurker. We have been married 29 years and have had problems for the past 7 years. I think he has been in MLC, all the signs are there. He moved out in Sept 2011, (he is living with his mother) but still calls every day and comes for dinner periodically and then will spend the night. As far as I know, he hasn't contacted a lawyer and our finances are still together. Very confusing behavior, but I know this is to be expected in this situation. I've gotten very good at zipping my lips and not pursuing. I think the relationship with OW has just started, maybe 2-3 weeks. He is already in Love with her and she is his soulmate that he has been searching for all his life. yada yada. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated.