Straight up affair vs. MLC - 02/27/11 05:32 AM
I was on this board ALL the time about a year & a half ago. I couldn't figure out what the HECK STBX was doing. Said he didn't love me, wanted out of M, etc. I spied on him like crazy & could never find anything. I just thought I had somehow been this horrible wife wo ever knowing it. I had always pinpointed the 2 week timeframe in which his weirdness started to June of 2008. He dropped the bomb 1/09 & moved out 10/09. A couple months after I started hearing that he had a gf. I didn't really care bc I had a bf too that I met once we officially separated. I figured the same thing must have happened w/him. A couple more months go by, the kids meet her, but he never brings her around their sporting events or anything. I'm wondering is he embarrassed of her? What gives? Now we're at 8/10 & bf & I attend a concert & we see him pulling in too w/gf in front seat. I still couldn't see her. So we finally find them in the parking lot & when I walked up, the only way I can describe seeing her is feeling like I was in the middle of a tornado of puzzle pieces swirling around me & dropping to my feet answering all my questions. We had both met her (time of his weirdness beginning) Memorial Day weekend. On a family camping trip. To explain it, a friend of mine had invited us to her property where her & a big group of her HS friends would camp every year. So (let's call her Katie) was there too w/her family including H! We had hung out w/her the whole time! Then we went back on Labor Day weekend, she comes running up like we are her best friends & hangs out w/both of us again the whole time. That time, STBXH had gotten in trouble by me for coming back to the tent once at 4am. He had been w/Katie & supposedly stayed up playing beer pong...which some people were when I headed to bed at midnight...I was mad, but it was believable. At least at the time.
Still to this day, STBXH says they conveniently met AFTER him & I split...and she just so happened to have left her now XH as well. Yeah right.
I know it doesn't really matter but I guess my question is...Is there a difference between MLC & straight up affair?
Still to this day, STBXH says they conveniently met AFTER him & I split...and she just so happened to have left her now XH as well. Yeah right.
I know it doesn't really matter but I guess my question is...Is there a difference between MLC & straight up affair?