A Cheated Cheater Back for More - 11/30/10 12:02 AM
As my disclaimer I want to say that I am very upset right now and not thinking entirely clearly. So please take that into consideration if you respond.
So here are the links to my original threads:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...968#Post1888968
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...161#Post1925161
The long and short of it is this:
In 2006 I had an affair that lasted approximately 10 months. I hit rock bottom and recommitted to my marriage in early 2007. We had some rocky points but were getting better. Then my H went away to a new school(he's a soldier) for 6 months in GA, thousands of miles from me. While there our marriage broke down, in large part due to him starting an A with a woman he met while there. It lasted for just under 8 months and I was Dbing like crazy. Got him to quit her cold turkey and things really turned around.
We have been talking about another baby and he's been really affectionate and helpful. On Thanksgiving a friend whose H works with mine repeated that my H said he doesn't even know if our second S now almost 4 is his. I didn't know he was still thinking about it, but I was prepared to deal with it calmly.
Today I found that he had left himself signed into FB on my laptop. The OW is back. He has been talking to her since at least September and discussing a D from me. It was nauseating and painful to read the e-mails. It was stupid and careless of him to leave it on my computer.
Why is he telling her he wants to be with her and then telling me he wants a baby and to re-enlist and take me somewhere new? It hurts so much right now. I'm going home to tell him I'm upset (though not what about; if he's not stupid he'll figure it out) but that I'm not ready to talk about it now. I am also telling him I want him to stay somewhere else tonight. If he won't I'm not ready to force the issue but I have arranged to go stay with my friend.
I have been entirely faithful since recommitting. I have erased the exOM from every aspect of my life, and every other person connected to that. I don't deserve this. And it seems like it's always this time of year that the sh*t hits the fan. I've been M 6 1/2 years and had one good holiday season. I don't want to do this again! I'm so hurt and so shocked right now.
Back to Dbing full time. Focus on me, spend time with my kids, don't play games, don't get emotional with him. I'm so sad, but by the end of the night I will have probably moved on to pissed.
Help me please.
M 6 1/2 years, S 5 1/2, s 3 1/2, S 2 1/2. In pain.
So here are the links to my original threads:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...968#Post1888968
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...161#Post1925161
The long and short of it is this:
In 2006 I had an affair that lasted approximately 10 months. I hit rock bottom and recommitted to my marriage in early 2007. We had some rocky points but were getting better. Then my H went away to a new school(he's a soldier) for 6 months in GA, thousands of miles from me. While there our marriage broke down, in large part due to him starting an A with a woman he met while there. It lasted for just under 8 months and I was Dbing like crazy. Got him to quit her cold turkey and things really turned around.
We have been talking about another baby and he's been really affectionate and helpful. On Thanksgiving a friend whose H works with mine repeated that my H said he doesn't even know if our second S now almost 4 is his. I didn't know he was still thinking about it, but I was prepared to deal with it calmly.
Today I found that he had left himself signed into FB on my laptop. The OW is back. He has been talking to her since at least September and discussing a D from me. It was nauseating and painful to read the e-mails. It was stupid and careless of him to leave it on my computer.
Why is he telling her he wants to be with her and then telling me he wants a baby and to re-enlist and take me somewhere new? It hurts so much right now. I'm going home to tell him I'm upset (though not what about; if he's not stupid he'll figure it out) but that I'm not ready to talk about it now. I am also telling him I want him to stay somewhere else tonight. If he won't I'm not ready to force the issue but I have arranged to go stay with my friend.
I have been entirely faithful since recommitting. I have erased the exOM from every aspect of my life, and every other person connected to that. I don't deserve this. And it seems like it's always this time of year that the sh*t hits the fan. I've been M 6 1/2 years and had one good holiday season. I don't want to do this again! I'm so hurt and so shocked right now.
Back to Dbing full time. Focus on me, spend time with my kids, don't play games, don't get emotional with him. I'm so sad, but by the end of the night I will have probably moved on to pissed.
Help me please.
M 6 1/2 years, S 5 1/2, s 3 1/2, S 2 1/2. In pain.