I understand you wanting privacy but if you can tell us what state you are in that would be very helpful.
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None of this makes any sense IMO. You are either not understanding what your attny is telling you or your attny doesn't know what he is talking about.
initially when i first met with the l to provide evidence for my financial statement, i asked him if i was going to owe. he said based on salary it's likely he will owe me.
when i first saw his financial statements, i was floored when i saw his claim on my jewellery and jacket. the jacket really shocked me. that was unexpected.
i called my l and he said he was not surprised because i had told him that my h was going to do this. even though we knew the ring was mine.
but again, what threw me off was that my l said "yeah, they tend to ask for the world and then we negotiate to somewhere in the middle."
i said hold on, i have to negotiate for stuff that i own?
he has claimed 100% ownership of the stuff that belongs to me.
what man claims 100% ownership of a $500 ladies jacket?
ok. let's calm down .. have my l look it over. have faith in my l.
the l has now completed a draft of our combined financial statements.
we are awaiting proof on a lot of the stuff that h has claimed.
the number can still change.
however, as it stands. i owe him. despite making 1/4 of what he makes.
that's not the kicker.
the kicker is that if i were to include my jewellery under my net worth and he includes his ring under his net worth, then my payment to him is potentially 10x more than without the rings on the statement.
why would the l state this unless it was an option?
so there is the potential that i have to put this on my financial statement?
a gift that is pre-marriage must go on my statement?
does this apply to all gifts or just my gifts?
this is where i don't know who or what to believe.
one day jewellery is off, next day the jewellery is back on.
this shouldn't be so complicated.