Divorce seems eminent. What do I do now? - 02/06/10 09:14 PM
I’m back with a new identity. I couldn’t stay away too long. The affair is busted but my W still wants the divorce. The house is up for sale. I have visited lawyers. She want’s a collaborative divorce. Right now, I’m not there yet.
After I signed off, I was able to confront the OM on the phone and just ripped him a new one. My W sat there and listened to the whole thing. I put the phone to her ear and told her to break it off now but she refused to speak. The OM broke it off.....supposedly. I have spoken with the OM W and they are currently working on their marriage.
I had a thrill locating her other cell phone in her car and then taking it out in the driveway and smashing it to pieces with a hammer while she watched.
The anger is gone but the pain of all this has resurfaced again. I had an emotional breakdown one morning and had to get on some Xanax and an antidepressant. I felt doped on the Xanax and quit taking that, but the antidepressant helps. I have found it best to emotionally detach again.
I have a new mentor who has been helping me through all this. He has been divorced and remarried to the same woman three times.
The divorce seems eminent. She has her mind made up. She says she doesn't want to stay married to me anymore. She was about to file Monday but somehow held up after my kids and I surprised her with a dozen roses and a total day of beauty at a spa as a gift the day before for her birthday. I know..... pursuing, but I made it from the kids.
She is going to counseling. I think the guy is just validating her decision. He just told her that I am in the grieving period and need more time.
Besides GAL and detach what else can I do now to save my marriage?
My sitch. I'm back from the dead.
After I signed off, I was able to confront the OM on the phone and just ripped him a new one. My W sat there and listened to the whole thing. I put the phone to her ear and told her to break it off now but she refused to speak. The OM broke it off.....supposedly. I have spoken with the OM W and they are currently working on their marriage.
I had a thrill locating her other cell phone in her car and then taking it out in the driveway and smashing it to pieces with a hammer while she watched.
The anger is gone but the pain of all this has resurfaced again. I had an emotional breakdown one morning and had to get on some Xanax and an antidepressant. I felt doped on the Xanax and quit taking that, but the antidepressant helps. I have found it best to emotionally detach again.
I have a new mentor who has been helping me through all this. He has been divorced and remarried to the same woman three times.
The divorce seems eminent. She has her mind made up. She says she doesn't want to stay married to me anymore. She was about to file Monday but somehow held up after my kids and I surprised her with a dozen roses and a total day of beauty at a spa as a gift the day before for her birthday. I know..... pursuing, but I made it from the kids.
She is going to counseling. I think the guy is just validating her decision. He just told her that I am in the grieving period and need more time.
Besides GAL and detach what else can I do now to save my marriage?
My sitch. I'm back from the dead.