My intro- WAH Keeps A Going - 08/11/14 07:57 PM
Me-BS (37)
WH-(36)
Two kids- 7 and 15
DD#1-09/2006 long distance PA w/ coworker. Found out by anonymous email. WH denied at first until the emails kept coming with more details. We married 01/02/2005. He couldn't wait a year to cheat. Extensive marital counseling, blah, blah, blah. I was dealing with a serious health issue at the time so focused on personal health more than making sure he wouldn't do it again...
DD#2-8/8/2011 PA w/ 2006 OW at work conference that month. OW lives several states away. He got back home on a Saturday morning. He called me at work that Monday crying and begging me to come home. "You're going to leave me." I was in a meeting in my office and left work for the day. Called him back from the car to first tell me if something happened to the kids as they were out of school/summer camp and in his care. Once I knew they were okay, I knew before he had to tell me that he had done it again. Same woman. But this time it's worse. The OW is now married.
Trickle truths that first week. Found out about an EA that happened while we were engaged that carried over into the first two years of our marriage with someone online.
Immediately set up IC for myself and him. Worked on R. He told me about the A. He was drinking with some work buddies before it happened this last time. He didn't touch a drop of alcohol for a long time. "Don't want to do anything that could make me lose focus." Going to IC without me pushing him to go. Seemed worth another shot.
DD#3: 6/14/2014 PA lasting 6 months with same OW and now wants divorce. 1 week later confused as to what he wants. Since then, it went back and forth between me and her.
Now, he only wants her. He says it is really over with us. ILYBINILWY. OW lives states away. She is getting a divorce and will have 50/50 custody of her kids. Wants to move here and try to move her kids here. I don't know how.
He is in affair fog. He shows signs of depression and has for a while.
I have successfully done a 180 on things I needed to work on in the marriage. I've been consistent for almost two months. The kids and WAH have noticed and commented on the changes. He just thinks his only hope at happiness is OW.
I'm a wreck. There is no other way to say it. I'm devastated. I try so very hard not to cry, but I can't eat. I can't sleep. I do take care of my kids, the house, and my job. I am doing everything I can, but disengaging is so hard. I am waiting for a therapy appointment.
Right now, we are all in the same house until we work out divorce details. He wants to rush everything. I'm not in the right state of mind to decide today.
This is devastating.
WH-(36)
Two kids- 7 and 15
DD#1-09/2006 long distance PA w/ coworker. Found out by anonymous email. WH denied at first until the emails kept coming with more details. We married 01/02/2005. He couldn't wait a year to cheat. Extensive marital counseling, blah, blah, blah. I was dealing with a serious health issue at the time so focused on personal health more than making sure he wouldn't do it again...
DD#2-8/8/2011 PA w/ 2006 OW at work conference that month. OW lives several states away. He got back home on a Saturday morning. He called me at work that Monday crying and begging me to come home. "You're going to leave me." I was in a meeting in my office and left work for the day. Called him back from the car to first tell me if something happened to the kids as they were out of school/summer camp and in his care. Once I knew they were okay, I knew before he had to tell me that he had done it again. Same woman. But this time it's worse. The OW is now married.
Trickle truths that first week. Found out about an EA that happened while we were engaged that carried over into the first two years of our marriage with someone online.
Immediately set up IC for myself and him. Worked on R. He told me about the A. He was drinking with some work buddies before it happened this last time. He didn't touch a drop of alcohol for a long time. "Don't want to do anything that could make me lose focus." Going to IC without me pushing him to go. Seemed worth another shot.
DD#3: 6/14/2014 PA lasting 6 months with same OW and now wants divorce. 1 week later confused as to what he wants. Since then, it went back and forth between me and her.
Now, he only wants her. He says it is really over with us. ILYBINILWY. OW lives states away. She is getting a divorce and will have 50/50 custody of her kids. Wants to move here and try to move her kids here. I don't know how.
He is in affair fog. He shows signs of depression and has for a while.
I have successfully done a 180 on things I needed to work on in the marriage. I've been consistent for almost two months. The kids and WAH have noticed and commented on the changes. He just thinks his only hope at happiness is OW.
I'm a wreck. There is no other way to say it. I'm devastated. I try so very hard not to cry, but I can't eat. I can't sleep. I do take care of my kids, the house, and my job. I am doing everything I can, but disengaging is so hard. I am waiting for a therapy appointment.
Right now, we are all in the same house until we work out divorce details. He wants to rush everything. I'm not in the right state of mind to decide today.
This is devastating.