Hoosier,
I see your point, but the article is in the context of a bored wife who is looking for emotional/sexual connection. They will tend to look towards unavailable.dangeous men. This form of hyper-masculinity certainly is deformed, but it's a pendulum-swing away from the nice-guy, stable, androgynous, emasculated men they are married to.
This whole topic interestes me. I'm more interested in what particular male/female dynamics have contributed to demise of my marriage than what generic stuff contributed.
Since divorce-busting tends towards a once-size-fits all approach to saving a marriage, it may miss some of the nuances of male/female dynamics.
Michelle points it out somewhat in the "Walk Away Wife" syndrome, but what she doesn't really tell is that when a wife is ready to leave, it's generally harder to turn-around than when a guy is ready to leave. 2/3 - 3/4 of all divorces are intitiated by women. There are notable exceptions (and you, Hoosier are one), but, men tend to stray and women tend to emotionally check-out. I once read an interview by Michelle online where she states it's *extremly* difficult to get a Walk-away wife to turn around.
Some women have been misled into thinking that poor treatment means "he really loves me." And that leads down some horrific roads.
Sure it does. It's unhealthy.
BUT....what's interesting, it that poor/erratic treatment that stems from hyper-masculine over-confidence tends to trigger attraction in a lot of women. Alpha-male behavior might be more biologically attractive than we want to admit. The "bad-boy" thing is nothing to be sneezed at. The bad-boy and the "nice-guy" are two distortions of intergrated, healthy, strong, masculinity.
And it seems that most of the guys in our generation, including me, are "nice-guys". Stable? Yes. Kind? Yes. but boring, weak and dis-passionate.
--Theoden