I don't usually get a pissed-off response. I used this on Monday and it was well-received--"XXX sounds no fun. I'm sorry you're feeling YYY. You're usually very ZZZ. <Insert 3x I noticed them being ZZZ>."
Like wayfarer, I cringe a bit at "I'm sorry you're feeling YYY." There are better phrases. Sometimes I'm lazy. I did see their perspective, recognize how they feel, and communicate it back to them.
There's a short Brene Brown video on empathy I love.
W: Bent this D is all your fault. When we were married you always left the cap off the fuching tooth paste, you left your fuching smelling dirty under wear laying around and you never asked how my fuching day went.