RockOn,

Good stuff. Way to keep up with the exercise and GAL. Sometimes those things fall off when folks hit a down spot is it's important to stay on track. Turn that 12-week program into 6 months and then a year. Keep up with the sports, church activities, pub nights with friends. Be open to adding more like a dance or cooking class but also be wary not to pile on too much you get overwhelmed. Keep relying on your closest family and friends.

You're doing all the right things external to W, just need to focus on the detachment and giving space aspect of your R. You need to make her feel like she's losing you...that you're a man too valuable to put up with her actions.

I vote "no" on the special Christmas gifts, but that's just me.