If you keep the card, get emotional and tell her how much you love her and having a family with her - she thinks you’re weak, knows you’re a backup plan, and so is encouraged to continue with a no-consequence divorce -monkey branching 101.
If you bin the card, she tells her friends and family you’re an unemotional, rude [censored] - and they validate her that she’s doing the right thing because she shouldn’t have to live with someone like that.
See the theme here - IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT YOU DO, you’re wrong in her eyes, and she’ll twist it to justify what she is doing.
So why keep trying to be right when you know you’re only ever going to be wrong?
Better to put that energy into you, than into an impossible task.
It’s good you’re keeping your emotions in check around her. Bravo! That can be really hard to do.
Hang in there buddy, you’re doing okay. Your ability to self-reflect at this early stage gives me great hope you’re going to come out of this a much happier person!
You feel crap right now - fair enough. But from where I’m sitting, your trajectory is excellent.
