This is what I meant earlier about wanting to tell her "if you are in a PA I will D you". That is not a boundary. It is you trying to scare her straight, so to speak.
Uuuummm. It actually is a boundary. You are stating your boundary and the consequences that come along with breaking the boundary. You can go have an affair with OM but you will no longer be married to me. Of course you better mean it if you say it.
