I have no doubt, KML, that you are helping your kids and not enabling them. The world is just not the place it used to be when we were kids and you could leave home at 18 with very few difficulties. Rent was reasonable, wages compared to cost of living were reasonable, cost of education was reasonable, etc… These days none of those things are true. In my town, rent for a nice two-bedroom condo is $2,200 a month. If you are okay with a not nice two-bedroom in a sketchy neighbourhood, you can maybe find something for $1,500. That is not including utilities. Cost of living is out of control and Covid has made it worse. The gap between the haves and the have nots is continuously increasing which is painfully evident in our current political climate. I honestly don’t expect my kids to leave home until their mid 20’s. They will be required to go to school or work and pay rent but either way, they will be able to stay until they have a solid plan to be on their own. Honestly, this is the norm for many, many cultures. Why we North American’s have such an issue with it is beyond me. This whole me, myself and I culture is not an advantage for anyone.
LH - You must have been reading something different than what I read. I totally understand KML’s reaction. I’d have the same one. If she had needed or wanted our advice when it comes to her kids, she would have asked for it. She didn’t. And I don’t agree that people get defensive because the other person’s comments ring true. I found the comments offensive and I don’t have any involvement in the situation.
