I hear you about the possibility of her offering sex. "I couldn't now; I need time for my emotions to settle." It would be easier to be away, but I'm tired of acting out of fear or shame. I can handle this.
not saying you'd be acting out of fear or shame. Sometimes it's just better to not be available, period, especially for those who don't seem to be willing to accept limits. Strategic retreats are not cowardly. They are strategic, lol.
