When divorce drives a friend crazy - 08/14/07 09:49 PM
I know I went where all others knew better than to go, and now I don't like it. I met an Indian woman, from India, about a year ago who lives in my neighborhood and wanted a friend. So I befriended her. She was separated from her H and he wanted a divorce. She didn't. He's a successful Dr. and makes a lot of money. She feels that since she was a good wife and worked hard as his wife and also at a job while she was married that he should support her now. He is trying to ditch her bigtime. He has witnesses in divorce court saying that she definitely can get a job, even though she has applied for many jobs and has not been offerred any.
All these months I've listened to her story, when no one else did, because in India you don't get divorced. So none of her old friends can understand or sympathize -- they judge her as a reject. Last week she went to court in L.A. She's back and just asked me nicely to come visit.
So I went. She starts out nicely telling the story, then all of a sudden she starts spewing all this anger on me. Yelling that she doesn't have to get a job if she doesn't want a job....on and on.
I hit the door running. So now what do it do? I can't be her friend, because I don't want to hear the spew that she wants to tell her husband, but can't. But how do I withdraw from the situation? She tells me I'm her only friend.
All these months I've listened to her story, when no one else did, because in India you don't get divorced. So none of her old friends can understand or sympathize -- they judge her as a reject. Last week she went to court in L.A. She's back and just asked me nicely to come visit.
So I went. She starts out nicely telling the story, then all of a sudden she starts spewing all this anger on me. Yelling that she doesn't have to get a job if she doesn't want a job....on and on.
I hit the door running. So now what do it do? I can't be her friend, because I don't want to hear the spew that she wants to tell her husband, but can't. But how do I withdraw from the situation? She tells me I'm her only friend.