Divorced but not done..advice for LBH on WAW - 01/09/19 06:06 AM
Hi,
First post here, looking for some advice on what to do after divorce.
Some back story: Wife left 2 years ago, came back, "wanted to work on things", but never really tried, Divorce was final about 6 months ago.
Typical WAW, everything was my fault, re-wrote our marital history, I was "abusive", etc. I went to counseling, worked on me, did everything she asked. Found out about Divorce busters too late (right before divorce was final) and realized I had been chasing her and it was not helping the situation.
I couldn't find any major evidence of an affair,
Anyway, I guess I my biggest question is: How can I win my wife back if we have virtually no contact?
Kids are picked up/dropped off at school, no texts or phone calls (maybe an occasional text about kids schedule or school event)
So I don't ever talk to her or see her. I need to just move on, but for I feel like I can't.... if I move on am I accepting it? I never wanted the divorce and I really want us to be a family again. It feels weird saying that after she divorced me and put me through h3ll this past year and a half. But I believe in Christian forgiveness.
Any help or thoughts are appreciated!
First post here, looking for some advice on what to do after divorce.
Some back story: Wife left 2 years ago, came back, "wanted to work on things", but never really tried, Divorce was final about 6 months ago.
Typical WAW, everything was my fault, re-wrote our marital history, I was "abusive", etc. I went to counseling, worked on me, did everything she asked. Found out about Divorce busters too late (right before divorce was final) and realized I had been chasing her and it was not helping the situation.
I couldn't find any major evidence of an affair,
Anyway, I guess I my biggest question is: How can I win my wife back if we have virtually no contact?
Kids are picked up/dropped off at school, no texts or phone calls (maybe an occasional text about kids schedule or school event)
So I don't ever talk to her or see her. I need to just move on, but for I feel like I can't.... if I move on am I accepting it? I never wanted the divorce and I really want us to be a family again. It feels weird saying that after she divorced me and put me through h3ll this past year and a half. But I believe in Christian forgiveness.
Any help or thoughts are appreciated!