The Sex Starved Wife: Husband Not Interested in Sex?

Is your husband not interested in sex?

Low sexual desire in men is America’s best kept secret. Millions of men don’t want sex with their wives. The problem is, men simply don’t want to discuss this matter with their wives, health care professionals or anyone else for that matter. This leaves women feeling alone and lonely.  If you’re not having the average amount of sex in your marriage, and the disparity of your libidos is a reoccurring problem, pay attention.  This video will help with the lack of sex in your marriage, and to bridge the sexual desire gap between you and your husband.

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Are you a sex starved wife?

A while back I wrote a book called the Sex-Starved Marriage where I described what happens in marriage when one spouse has a much higher sex drive than the other. In that book I devoted about five pages to the unique challenges of women when they’re the ones with higher. And based on that small amount of coverage I was inundated with e-mails and calls from women saying “thank you so much for bringing up this issue. I thought I was the only one whose husband wasn’t chasing them around the living room with an erection.”

So often you go into a locker room and you hear men complaining about their wives not wanting sex or having headaches. If you listen into women’s conversations over lunch they’re always saying that their husbands are animals, they always want sex. But do you know why that is? Low desire in men is America’s best kept secret. Millions of men aren’t interested in having sex, they just aren’t talking about it.

I did a study with Redbook Magazine and you know what we found? Two thirds of the women that responded in this study said they wanted sex at least as much if not more than their husbands. We found some other things that were very interesting as well. Men, when they have low desire, aren’t willing to discuss the problem. They don’t want to talk about it with their wives, they don’t want to call their health care professionals. They just don’t want to talk about it. You know why? They feel so much shame because in our culture masculinity is often equated to virility. It strikes terror into the hearts of men to think they’re not interested in sex – it is a taboo subject. This leaves the problem unresolved and their wives are exasperated. Interestingly enough, women don’t even talk to their girlfriends about it. They’re embarrassed thinking they’re the only ones and they don’t want to embarrass their husbands.

So what’s a woman to do when she’s having this problem and her heart is aching and her husband won’t talk and he won’t get help. The first thing she needs to do is have her husband watch this video. Because I’m saying what you’ve been saying for a very long time, only maybe he’ll hear it coming from me. The second thing is to urge your husband to get a physical check up.

I know what you’re thinking about when I say that. You’re thinking, “yeah right I can’t get my husband to go to a doctor. Men don’t go to doctors unless they’ve lost a limb or they’re bleeding to death.” That’s probably true, but I’ve talked to a lot of women who’ve talked to their husband and said “please just go for a physical check up,” and he would say, “okay,” but he doesn’t make an appointment. If your husband has said he’s willing to get a physical check up, use that as license for you to pick up the phone, make an appointment, and get him in the car. But women often say, “I don’t want to be his mother.” You’re not his mother, you’re tipping over the first domino. You’re getting him the help he needs so he can begin to address the issue. Take charge, take the first step.

Secondly, if you’re having trouble getting through to your husband, call a Divorce Busting Coach who can help you come up with a plan to approach your husband in a loving way so that he doesn’t feel threatened, so that you’re not hurting his ego, his ego is hurting enough. Your Divorce Busting Coach will help you figure out exactly what you should say or do so when you approach your husband he will listen and he will be more responsive. Being distant physically is really difficult in a relationship and I know you’re having a hard time. Do something now to make things better. You can be closer physically and your relationship will heal.

Call a Divorce Busting Coach 303-444-7004 for top quality marriage counseling and to save your marriage today.

The Sex-Starved Wife Michele Weiner Davis

About mwd27

Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW is an internationally renowned relationship expert, best-selling author, marriage therapist, and professional speaker who specializes in helping people change their lives and improve important relationships. Among the first in her field to courageously speak out about the pitfalls of unnecessary divorce, Michele has been active in spearheading the now popular movement urging couples to make their marriages work and keep their families together. She is the author of seven books including her best-selling books, DIVORCE BUSTING: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again, and THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE: A Couple's Guide to Boosting Their Marriage Libido. Michele's work has been featured in major newspapers such as the New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Washington Post, Chicago Tribune, Wall Street Journal, and magazines such as Time, Redbook, Ladies Home Journal, Essence, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Woman's Day, Men's Health, New Woman, and McCall's. Michele is a marriage expert on Redbook's advisory board, and She has made countless media appearances on shows such as Oprah, 48 Hours, 20/20, The Today Show, CBS This Morning, CBS Evening News, CNN, and Bill O'Reilly. Michele's Keeping Love Alive program aired on PBS stations nationwide. She recently completed a reality based show for the BBC about helping couples save their marriages. Michele maintains that her true expertise in helping couples have great relationships is derived from first-hand experience. She and her husband have been married for more than thirty years.
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  • wiggens

    My husband is not only no interested in sex but is not interested in me any more. We have been married 40 plus years and I’d say about 35 of those years have been sexless, no intimacy or affection. He says were just friends and not married. I don’t know for sure but I would bet he doesn’t even love me. We hadn’t slept together since or wedding night, in fact he built a apartment type thing in our lower level where he moved all his things. We never talk oru00a0 even see each other for daysu00a0. I know this isn’t my fault but I feel so ugly, and unwanted. I also thought all men were suppose to be animals when it came to sex. I don’t know what happen to my husband, but he wasn’t interested in any thing from get go. I should have left him but I have no kids and all of our relatives have passed on. I’ve acceptedu00a0 how my life will be even if I’am miserable. Just need a strong shoulder to cry on.u00a0

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