I talked to Laurie again in March, and we agreed I'd try going dark for a while. I find that a bit confusing, but she has more experience with this than I do. It bugs me, though, when DB coaches or others on this board name as a goal getting to a place where you're okay with letting the marriage go. Do you need that devil-may-care attitude in order to be attractive again, or is a protective strategy for dealing with the fact that this divorce is not likely to be busted?