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Originally Posted by ozman
Rtc. Didn’t you suggest we go do something together. Like play darts? I’m really confused


Yes. That would be YOU making a plan and if she joins you, great. If not, great. If she spent the whole time texting, then you decide, "Time to go home".


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Hey Ozman, hope you made it through the evening okay. Take care!

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Oz,

Right now all you want to do is stop the pain. I totally get it. The problem is it just doesn’t work that way. I get that you want to ask her if she’s sleeping with other dudes. The problem is that she’s not going to be honest with you. If an affair is not a deal breaker for you then it’s best not to know right now. Have you read the boundary section? Do you know what a boundary is and how to set a boundary? I know this is probably the hardest thing you will ever do but you have to try to understand that it will most likely take years to completely play out. Nobody asks to be in this situation but trust me when I tell you that you will come out of this one way or another and be strong as fuch.

Right now it’s about damage control. You can’t make it better right now but you can certainly make it worse. Do not make decisions based on emotions or there is certain to be consequences.

Stay strong buddy.

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Originally Posted by ozman
I can’t do this.


So what are you going to do differently if you can't do THIS?

And please start a new thread to tell us.


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