Wife and I talked about how we need to be open with our feelings and not hold stuff in (which I’ve done in the past)
Let her open up to you. Ask her about her feelings, if she's sad/ confused/ scared/ worried then talk to her. Listen to her. Understand her. Nod, say things like "that sounds very difficult, is there anything I can do to help?" But don't try to fix her, just be there for her. Be the rock that she can lean on for support. If you can successfully listen and validate, then her perception is that you are more sensitive and open even though you're not sharing YOUR feelings much if at all. Think of yourself like her counselor, you listen, acknowledge, empathize. Counselors do not share their own feelings, they are completely focused on their patient's feelings. That's where you need to start. If you go blurting out how you feel about everything then she is just going to think "same old DH, just wants all the focus on himself and never listens to me."
