Maybe your h is comfortable w/the way things are right now. It appears that you aren't "pressing" him about the relationship/divorce. You have been a very patient woman who is allowing him to figure things out for himself. Many of them will not use the word "divorce" unless they are pushed. Some use it to get us to back off and others get to the point of saying "divorce" because they see it as the end of their pain and suffering and the rainbow is on the other side of the court hearing. I don't see any of that w/your h.
Unless you want to ruffle his feathers and ask him about stuff, I would just leave him be and continue as you have been. When you sit quietly, the answers will be revealed to you.
Cleaning and sorting out closets, cabinets, etc. is a wonderful way to use that pent up energy. Making bread sounds like a great idea,
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
