Wow. A lot to digest. I guess my only suggestion is to try to avoid another R talk for a while. Let this one sink in a bit. Some good stuff there and it seems she has an internal struggle going on like my wife did a couple of months ago. A lot of your sitch reminds me of mine.
Keep up the good work though.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I can relate to how your W feels about giving up on the MR. It's really hard to engage after you've completely given up. To think that was the first time you have been alone in five months.......is very telling of a lonely W. And, you had not talked about your relationship since before S8 was born. That's a long time! She was starved for your attention and some one on one time. Marriages have to be nourished, or they die. It's just that simple.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I can relate to how your W feels about giving up on the MR. It's really hard to engage after you've completely given up. To think that was the first time you have been alone in five months.......is very telling of a lonely W. And, you had not talked about your relationship since before S8 was born. That's a long time! She was starved for your attention and some one on one time. Marriages have to be nourished, or they die. It's just that simple.
I've always like the analogy of a car. Keeping a car running requires routine maintenance. If you skip the maintenance and allows a major malfunction to occur, it will be very costly to fix. Marriages are the same way, they need routine maintenance to avoid a costly breakdown.
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M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
