Hi Coly, I'm ok just a bit down. I'm in the middle of my radiotherapy treatment and I'm very tired. H and me still text each other and he's called a couple of times. He still hasn't moved in with his parents. The issues he had were three or four days after our talk the OW was threatening suicide and ended up in hospital. He said he's now basically waiting for the next argument (what a complete coward) and he'll leave. Apparently they argue often. I'm not pushing it though. He will leave when he's ready. I couldn't stop crying yesterday.....I think every thing is catching up with me. Never mind, onwards and upwards!
Best wishes with your treatment and other stresses. I agree with the others especially sotto.
I think even gently reminding him is pursuing and can result in pressure being felt by the WAS. They cannot handle pressure. It does appear that his R with OW is on it's last legs. Let it die without further interference.He has to own that decision and not do so because you pushed for it. Doing it on his own helps him really decide. Otherwise he could later refute the decision because he never actually made it himself.
You seem to have enough on your plate. Look after yourself.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Yes, I agree. I'm not mentioning it again. It has to be in his own time. I just don't want to go back to NC as before because it was starting to get awkward again.
He's going to try and call this evening on his way to work, so we'll see.
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Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
