Figured I would update this as it has been a while.
Things have been amazing! She came back from her trip and we actually started to communicate. Then we went on a trip to Idaho together. for the first 5 hours of the drive we did nothing but talk and ask questions about each other that we didn't know! It really opened our eyes. We rekindled our friendship first.
Last night she told me that we aren't separated anymore! I wanted to run outside and do a back flip. Instead we just hugged. Things have been so good the last week that I find it hard to not just dive in head first and try to swim again. we still have a lot to work on, mostly trust and forgiveness but I know we will get there. We are taking baby steps. The counselor gave us some pretty good insight as to how to trust again. Basically baby steps. give a little more, risk a little each time and see what happens. when you feel comfortable with that take another risk step.
I have really forgiven her for what she has done, the forgiveness needs to come from her side now. That is the largest hurtle we have right now. Hopefully she can find it in her heart to forgive me for the things that I have done.
Trust me. I've been where you are twice. Both times, I feel I let her back in too quickly without doing all the work that we BOTH needed to do. The same problems presented themselves within months.
So, in the meantime, do not allow yourself to get too excited. Your W can easily reverse course if you aren't careful.
