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Valid, valid questions, my friend. Of which, I have no answer. In my case, mine told the MC that she was done and didn't want it any more. I just can't fathom it. I was raised old school and that never give up on marriage. She, on the other hand, I guess was taught the "value" of leaving if things didn't go the way she perceived them. Notice I said perceived...


I just can't fathom it either man...don't get it. I was raised old school as well. So much so that I asked for her parent's permission for her hand in marriage. Looking back, I wasn't always satisfied from my wife, but I never would have ever done what she has done to her. It would never have even entered my mind to be honest let alone just go and D her without a care in the world. She would cry to me in regards to her shortcomings as a W and say how bad she felt about them. I would always, always validate her feelings and let her know that I M her because I loved her and those shortcomings would never change my mind. F***!

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Brotherman, when my kids are at their moms and the house is empty...it just plain s*cks. Still does. But there is no magical light switch. Even after all this time, her ghost still lingers. It will always for us because we aren't the ones who wanted this.


Those are the worst times I think. Maybe, like them, when I find someone else those times will be a lot easier to get through. It seems the nights that I do not have my children I am up until 2-3:00am even though I wake up at 7 for work. I just sometimes wish this on them so they know how it feels!!

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Sal, I've asked my self many times, and I'm sure I'll continue to ask the same questions.
How can my W leave 6 years? then I see you're at 16, and it makes me feel like, oh well if they can leave 16, some 20 plus years, mine can leave a lousy 6. Glad I'm not the only one perplexed. makes me feel slightly less crazy.

hang in there man.


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Thanks bro, but I would have the same questions even if we were only M for 6 years. There are too many good memories for me to just forget about and I'm the LBS who has been cheated on and who's W is dating OM2 already....

Think Jeep hit it on the head and said that since we didn't want this, we are the one's left asking these questions. Maybe if the shoe was on the other foot then I would be able to understand her point of view. Who knows.


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Sal27, don't waste your time trying to figure out the whys as you'll only drive yourself crazy. I know, because I've been there and still don't know. You'll beat yourself silly over it, my friend. No amount of logic will get them to see or make you understand. It is what it is, my friend.

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