I admire both of you guys....you have fought for your marriages and your families for a long time! It will be difficult to execute your goal but you can do it and you can say you gave it your all with integrity. I would not wish any of what we are going through either, no one really understands unless it happens to them, I never thought I would be the LBS but I am, it [censored] but we can only better ourselves and move forward.
I have a smoker that needs to get fired up if you wanna bring over some pork and beef. HA!!
W:42 M:48 T:9 yrs M:1yr BD: Feb 2016 EA Confirmed: Feb 2016/PA July 2016 D: Feb 2017
Ha! I might get one of those green egg thingies, revised finances permitting.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
JR I get it brother. At some point you just seem to hit a wall. You've been fighting the good fight and have been at it much longer than I have. I'm exhausted, so I can only imagine how you are feeling. it seems like taking a more detached view of things can only help. If nothing else it is something different and different things will happen. Getting out of the "routine" your in can only be a good thing.
The planning recently has really helped me find some peace. Knowing that I'll be ready and ok no matter what happens takes a load off. I want to be in a good stable place so that my D has stability in the future. You seem to be moving towards the same and for that I applaud you amigo!
Please do let us keep helping where we can. We all care about you brother and want to know you're good!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
FG -- I'm not sure what the timing is at this point. She's made noises like she might want to move to that one-bedroom apartment model, where we split time there solo and parent in the main house solo. I'm not sure I'm interested in that and don't think she can make me participate in that, but I need to make sure I know my rights and what I'd do if that comes up.
lt -- thanks for the well wishes. It feels good when the waves of acceptance wash over me. They don't stick around too long yet, but hopefully they gain traction, because the sorrow, anger, denial/bargaining loop I've been stuck in for almost two years is no good!
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
Oops -- I did but posted in the (old) wrong one. Sorry, Cadet.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
