Deja de leer la mente (that is stop mind reading in spanish)
Arrêter lecture de l'esprit (in French)
Stopp Gedankenlesen (in German)
Léamh aigne Stop (in Irish)
Stopptankeläsning (Sweedish)
Are you getting my subtle hint?
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The problem for me is that I "DO" desperately want to talk about it.
Why?
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I feel like I'm living a lie.
Is this ^^^ the reason? What do you really gain by telling people? Support? Chit that is what we are here for. Be honest, what is your reason for wanting to tell people?
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I'm willing to be contradicted but I'm not too worried about the finances
That is what a ton of people I know said, then they ended up getting screwed. Ask yourself this, if you guys were still in the same house as a couple and she began spending up a storm, which was beginning to impact your savings, retirement, bills, etc. What would you do?
Protecting yourself is NOT a bad thing. Just sayin…
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She is very smart.
Remember these ^^^ words of yours.
Apply them when you are about to do, say or email something. She knows you better than you think. She will pick up on the subtle hints, the subtle guilt trips, the subtle manipulation. Chances are she may also use them against you. So believe it or not – the No Contact may be a very good thing. As for the finances, here is what I would say, in the US most expenses that a married couple accrue is the responsibility of BOTH parties. If she is bad with money or can spend, you may be looking at assume debt that may not be yours. Find out what the laws are in your town/state and please protect yourself.
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Going back to a post I think by Jack on this thread there are things that she (mind reading) "wants" to believe about me and that she "wants" me to do "bad" things but I don't.
1) Believe it or NOT YOU have NO say in what you thinks or says. 2) She will believe what she wants to believe.
Chew on this old saying for a bit……. What someone else thinks about you is really none of your business.
What I see in your posts is this feeling that what YOU do or do not DO is going to DRIVE what she does. In some way it will in others it will not.
Being just and fair is very different that being scared.
You matter Andrew – don’t forget that.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Come here to vent, talk and seek out advice and pearls of wisdom. It's a safe environment and the less you talk to others about the situation, the better.
It's time to start a new thread.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
