Cessna - I think at least in my case that my W wants me to do the dirty work and be the "bad" one. There's also the confusion and depression that keeps them from acting.
In the reading there's a bit about this where it's common for the MLCer to say that they want a D and then if the LBS gets fed up enough to initiate it they then drag their feet.
It's part of the "script" I suppose, or just an other loop on the roller-coaster.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
Thanks Andrew. I believe it's the same in my case too. Everything is so they don't feel guilty and can justify their behavior. I was confused prior to her moving out with calling me a "monster". "You ruined my life" just like I read in an earlier thread. No incident had even happened. She was citing things from a decade ago. But, that gave her justification and made me the bad guy. How long can this go on? Rhetorical.
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