You gotta get back to that place where you're happy-go-lucky. Somehow. I bet your kids can see that Mommy is the one pulling away.
Sounds like you're doing a lot of GAL & 180's but ... detaching, truly detaching, is not happening. (Same for me! Not sure I'm truly detaching). Sounds like your happiness is still directly attached to her behavior.
Glad you still think your W is hot ... that's essential.... to suffering.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
LOL, ForGump. Yeah, detaching isn't happening, and suffering is. My happiness graph tracks her moods very closely. Ugh. I think living together but separated is a sure-fire recipe for continued suffering, honestly -- there's just no way to detach from someone (a) you still find wildly attractive, and (b) who's right there, within touching distance, a lot of the time.
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Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
