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Originally Posted By: Melo
Hey CT, you seem to be in a really good place emotionally. Seems like you have found the ever illusive detachment.


Melo - thank you, I am getting closer, but the fact that all these months later I still struggle to intake more than 1200 calories a day and have little sleep which is broken apart by consistent wake-up says my subconscious has a different story to tell. I am trying, and really do feel better during the day - and part of my struggle to eat has to do with the medication I am on.

Originally Posted By: ForGump
I wish my W was temp checking me...!

I'm not sure but I may be feeling myself slowly falling out of love. Hard to say because it's a rollercoaster ride. Sometimes I feel like I'm less into her, yet other times I feel like my heart's going to explode from losing her, or thinking about her w/ someone else.


ForGump - this is all true. I have mentioned before how I have to drive by my WW's place to drop my S4 off at school. Two weeks ago I quit looking over to see if AP's truck was in driveway. This morning I had an urge to do it, but resisted. I feel good this morning. I don't care, but I do - sure that makes sense to many here. WW texted this morning - we keep a joint bank account for shared debts and something went wrong w/ a deposit. WW included "have a good day", yeah, temp checking. The road is long. The road is long.

I think I hit my 100 posts soon and will be able to start a new thread. The title of this current one does not seem appropriate to me anymore.


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I would like to know thoughts on this:

For months at the start of each week, WW had been sending me a proposed schedule of what nights who would watch S4. More often than not, I had just agreed to it, it did not really matter to me. Then at start of July when I realized WW was still in the A, I drew a boundary and began sending WW the schedule I wanted. This did not go over very well w/ her at first, but I stayed on course. Now that some of my moves have had impact, should I continue or let WW take some of this back? My initial goals were to disrupt WW's plans w/ her AP, but now that a 2nd BD has occurred, I am not really sure I need that goal anymore. Also, in an effort to do this, it has required me to violate my 'first contact' rule each Monday. I sent one out this morning not thinking about it, but I am thinking about it now - thought's on this?


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CT1118,

Do what's best for S4.

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Originally Posted By: doodler
CT1118,

Do what's best for S4.



Sound advice, thank you


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Originally Posted By: CT1118
Two weeks ago I quit looking over to see if AP's truck was in driveway.


That would tear my guts out. I'd drive 4x4 through the fkn mountains (in my 2 wheel drive import gas miser car) to avoid having to see this.

Originally Posted By: CT1118
WW included "have a good day", yeah, temp checking. The road is long. The road is long.


Maybe in the world of texting, "Have a good day" is temp-checking ... but when interacting w/ my W in person, the mindset I'm trying to adopt is that of a polite, decent friend, so I often say "have a good day" as a parting greeting, because simply skipping the greeting might come across as being sulky, and I don't to give off that vibe.


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Originally Posted By: Rose888
I'd agree with you except for the GAL bit.


Good point. Thanks for pointing that out.



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http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2693977#Post2693977l

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