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Ok now I'm angry. He went to bed without even a wave. I went for water, saw him in bed and on his phone! I can't think what I did to deserve this???


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Originally Posted By: Buxom
I can't think what I did to deserve this???

You married him and were breathing air.

IE - stop blaming yourself, stop pursuing him,
what makes you think it is your fault?


Also please start a new thread.


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Cadet, I have not been pursuing. I've been much better. At first he moved forward with my nonpursuing, now he's more distant. Coincidence? It feels punitive. Is this the ugliness I was warned of?

I will start new thread afternoon after I have my DB phone session.
Thanks cadet for responding. I do feel more alone. Col


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Originally Posted By: Buxom
Cadet, I have not been pursuing. I've been much better. At first he moved forward with my nonpursuing, now he's more distant. Coincidence? It feels punitive. Is this the ugliness I was warned of?

I will start new thread afternoon after I have my DB phone session.
Thanks cadet for responding. I do feel more alone. Col

Well things normally get worse before they get better.

As far as pursuit and detachment, just think of it like an onion with different layers, you have peeled a few layers off but there are many more that you have to get to.

I was trying to say on the last post that it is not your fault what he does.
You are not responsible for him,
only for YOU!

Good luck with your phone session.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2692030&#Post2692030

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