Swinging by to check in and oh my a lot since last night.
First, let the emotions of the delivery of the d papers flow through. They are natural and should be acknowledged. Your posts in reference to it all are strong though and that is due to all that you have been doing. This is where you can let the anger out. You can benefit from it. The white anger that is.
(((Phoebe)))
I say enjoy the activities that you have planned, and the time with your sibling and family. The timing for that is perfect. There is no rush for you and the distractions will help keep your mind in a good place.
Now my advice here, is to separate the emotions from the d process. It is important so that you can understand the laws and details for it all. Protect your self and your interests. Stay calm, and most importantly do everything possible to be respectful to him regardless. I believe that my efforts to do that in my switch was what finally calmed the storm. Fighting over the details and facts that the law encompasses is a losing battle so there is little point in doing so.
Phoebe, focus on the positive self talk around your capabilities and principles and you will continue to get stronger as you travel through a difficult part of this journey.
I hope that you can sleep well tonight. Rainbow hugs for you.
(((Phoebe)))
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16
This has all gone terribly fast and you've barely got yourself back up on your knees. I really want to smack him.