Don't try and understand his mind, he is not rational. Most men in MLC can separate kids from marriage so to us we think if a father wants to see his kids all the time he should just be married to their mother. The male MLC brain doesn't work like that. That rational just doesn't enter their brain.
What do you have planned to treat yourself to for your birthday?
Originally Posted By: Mia2003
Well not sure I should read anything into this.
It's my birthday tomorrow, and normally h takes kids out to McDonald's but when he just dropped the kids off he said is it ok if he sees the kids on Thursday rather than tomorrow as I'm sure you want to spend time with them in the evening. Wow some actual consideration for my feelings.
He is not obsessed about seeing the kids. Why? If he wanted to see them so much surely he'd try and work at his marriage .
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction
I agree w/twinmom...don't try to understand what he says or does because it will change on a dime and give you a penny back. Sometimes they are thoughtful and kind and then there are other times they can be so nasty about things. Take what he is offering you in the way of you having the children tomorrow as a nice surprise.
So, what are your plans for your special day?
Okay, here's the thing, seeing the kids and working on the marriage are two separate things in his mind. The relationship is actually what he's running away from and since he's obsessed in seeing the kids...that tells me he doesn't see a lot of responsibility in being w/them, i.e., like a father should.
Have a great birthday!
P.S. Please start a new thrad.
Last edited by job; 05/02/1602:26 PM. Reason: new thread request
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
They have a great time with him. Constantly doing stuff. This weekend it was archery , wild life centre, log cutting. Ows daughters birthday. All a buzz a minute.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
