Wow I sympathize so much with you! I am new at this too and am trying to learn not to trust my gut or initial reactions. I also find myself trying to sleep thinking about my W. Often that turns to visualizing her with someone else and I feel like I am going to break down and start panicking. Then come up with plans that will make it all ok. I am doing my best to not follow through those plans and stay with the book and advice but it is hard. Just know there are a lot of us going through this and I wish the very best for you and will pray for you.
Me 41 W 33 M 2013 Suspect A 11/15 Confirm A 1/16 She moved out 2/14/16 Stepson 13 Stepson 16
I don't know how much more of this I can take. He surprisingly is still sleeping at home he has reassured me he is not interested in other women tight now but he us way colder and distant... all that work for nothing. I am so angry at myself
BREATH! Stop being so hard on yourself. Sticking with DB strategies is hard work and everyone messes up sometimes. It happens! Hit your inner reset button and begin again because you can.
I'm glad you found Michele's book to be inspirational. Follow Cadet's advice by keeping it to yourself. These are your tools. Focus on being the best hmc and Mom that only a fool would leave without any relationship talk. Show him, dont' tell him, what his is giving up.
Thanks for the vote of confidence on the DB Coaching Zues126. Getting a DB Coach will help you figure out which strategies to use when and how to specifically handle his cake eating behavior.
You are at a very fragile point in this relationship and it would be extremely helpful to know what your next move should be.
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Totally get that, HMC, as I can't afford one either. But keep reading the forums and the books. People on here will help, and Cristy's advice is spot on. Forgive yourself and move on to the next step.
Have you set some goals yet?
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M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
Hi, I know it's hard because you are leaving under the same roof, please take it as a blessing. From what I read in your post going dark, your H is curious of what you do. I don't want to raise your hope but I see it as baby step from his side.
