Hi Elly, I glad you had a fun time today. As it becomes the new normal you will be able to go do fun things. Do you live near a city with museums or go see a show. University's have guest speakers or listen to a symphony, something like that could be fun. You have time, go have fun young lady.
I am at a loss on advice for your son. Maybe until he's used to it your husband could call and say good night. This way good bye was not the end of the night. Just a thought. Be well
Hi Elly! Just dropping in to check on you. Sometimes I get so frustrated that it's been 5 months since BD, and I feel like I'm just barely beginning to wrap my mind around it. You have no idea how much better it makes me feel learning that others have been here much longer than I, and still struggle a bit.
Sometimes the advice feels to me like "get over it already"...I'm not there yet. I'm trying to be, and I am making progress, but this is hard! It's something I never wanted, and I realize it's happening. There's no denial going on...I just wish I were at peace, but I'm not.
I don't know what I'm trying to say exactly. It's part vent, part I'm so glad you're here, and part I'm so happy I'm not alone still struggling a bit after the first 3 months. I've been trying to catch up on your threads - but it takes a bit of time. I've been doing a lot of reading in the MLC section, too. I always find great advice there.
Just really want you to know I've noticed you, and your attitude and situation resonate with me. You have such kindness! Thank you for being willing to share it.
Hi Ancaire! I think we all get frustrated with the journey and that's why this board is so amazing. Just when you think you've hit your lowest, you see someone else going through the same thing and it gives you strength and comfort. I'm glad my journey has given that to you. I certainly understand the feeling of "getting over it" It's perfectly fine to vent. That allows you to feel other feelings. If you keep it in, then it's turned towards you and that is not good. Keep venting, and eventually you'll find that you have some more positives thrown in there too.
You will make it through this...just sometimes you have to tell yourself that you will make it through the next ten minutes. You might smile, but that is what I do...
Thank you for your wonderful compliment. It made me blush.
*hugs*
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M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out
My youngest sister is your age so you are a young lady. Elly your only half way through this ride called life. You have a lot of living left to do. Live well dear Elly
