hold on! - 11

[Sotto]

I agree that it is important to give forewarning. Receiving D papers without any warning would be a shock. And I think to forewarn is to show care and honour the M you have had. Even if it is to come to an end.

My H emailed me a few days before I received D papers, and I grieved for 24 hours and was then ready for them to arrive. I'm glad he did that and I think it was the right way.

Why would you not forewarn her?

[RAI]

Just don't let her file first - it can weaken your position. Regarding forewarning her: If you serve without warning, perhaps the shock she feels in response can be beneficial, lift the fog a bit?

Just a thought.

RAI

[SunnyB]

Just don't let her file first - it can weaken your position.

That's possible. Or it might not make a difference. In my state, it makes zero difference who files for what reason. If in doubt, call your L.

[u-turn]

Thank you all - I will respond to all of this helpful advice and support in my next thread - this one is about to lock.

Here is a link to the next chapter:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2599951&#Post2599951

Thank you