Sis, Whatever you decide to do, we will support you. You are the only one that can determine what is right for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
My H cancelled his trip home, he said everyone is mad at him and he couldn't handle that. He also revealed to our oldest D29 that his 'friend' OW recently told him she wants nothing to do with him until he is divorced and moves back to WA where she lives. Apparently my text messages were 'crazy and evil' which they weren't. I just revealed his lies and his relationship with me ( kissing, hugging, hand holding, go,ring, church etc.,)didn't settle well with her. I feel as though she's given him an indirect ultimatum and it will be interesting to see what path he chooses. I'm prepared to move on and it's basically why I took the chance on sending a message to her. I felt that if I lose him for good as a result then so be it. I'm running out of steam with his crisis. Can't handle all the lies anymore
Sis
M: 53 H:53 M: 30 years D:29, D 27, D 25 BD: 6/2/14 Proof of OW 7/7/14 D filed 8/14 (H) D dropped 1/15 (H) 3/15 H reaching out 06/01/15 Proof of OW still 06/17/15 I filed
M: 53 H:53 M: 30 years D:29, D 27, D 25 BD: 6/2/14 Proof of OW 7/7/14 D filed 8/14 (H) D dropped 1/15 (H) 3/15 H reaching out 06/01/15 Proof of OW still 06/17/15 I filed
Well, it probably reflects that he was lying to the OW all along....probably the usual lies about how "the marriage has been dead for years", "we don't have sex" etc etc etc. Many OW are evil and insensitive, but some simply aren't given all the facts.
H reached out to my sisters. Apparently he's going on a 2 weeks bike tour of the East Coast and wants to stop in and say hi (Ct and Boston) and 'crash' for the night. He implied to my BIL that he had a trip planned out west that was cancelled, OW said not to come back until he's divorce. I find it very strange that he would want to spend time with my sisters and their families with everything going on. They don't know how to handle it! I also filed for divorce this week in order to prevent him from filing in the state where he works and now lives. He was talking about refiling as soon as we reached our year mark of living separate and apart. So even in my sadness and his madness, I've gained a little bit of control. Will see how he seems after his 'pilgrimage'. I will most likely serve him shortly after that.
M: 53 H:53 M: 30 years D:29, D 27, D 25 BD: 6/2/14 Proof of OW 7/7/14 D filed 8/14 (H) D dropped 1/15 (H) 3/15 H reaching out 06/01/15 Proof of OW still 06/17/15 I filed
