Teach, ship, Defacto, Diana, Thanks for swinging by I hope you all had a great fourth or summer weekend! The kids and I watched fireworks at our neighbors, it was a lot of fun.
I encourage you all to go boating, burn some calories, get in a rhythm, live outside, and enjoy summer!
So. Yesterday I met X at her mother's and picked the kids up there. She was talkative and outgoing. Today she picked the kids up here and she was distant and non-talkative. I don't think we said 10 words to each other. Soo weird to me.
Anyway, I went out with my parents ran some errands and had beers and apps at a bar. Upon walking in the hostess took a double take at me and then we had a side conversation. That felt good for my self esteem. And she was a pretty girl.
I read some posts tonight but didn't respond. There was a lot of sombering posts out there. In my own story there is a lot of steps forward and a lot of steps back. I try to learn from it all. I know somewhere that the biggest parts of the roller coaster are over. But there definitely is residual stuff left over. Sorting through the thick bush is hard when your in the middle.
I hope everyone had a good fourth and weekend.... A dream with no action is only just a dream. Keep on keeping on!
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Haven't posted much lately. Here is a quick update.
Thur... I picked up the kids and have them for about 2 weeks. BC she is traveling again.
Fri... We left to camp with their cousins and my parents. It was their first time camping. We then followed that up with their first rafting trip on Saturday.
It was wonderful. We had a great weekend. I took lots of pictures and will always remember their first trip on the river and how much fun we had.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
As you may remember, I believe I disproved my memory theory, when the email chain went silent and she did not respond. I believed that was b/c I was asking about her upcoming trip and she did not want to disclose information. However, on Thur I still had not told her about taking the kids out of the state (which is required in our parenting plan). So I texted her and she responded...
Me: FYI. I’ll be taking the kids to western MA tomorrow. Also, your mother will have your check.
Her: Okay, they'll love that. They actually have their suitcases, so they will be excited to fill those. I'll text you before I call this weekend to make sure it is a good time to talk to them. I'll be out of the country so it may be at a different time due to time zone difference. Have fun and give them kisses for me, they are excited to see you.
I thought it was interesting that she mentioned leaving the country. After I had just disproved my mirror theory. After she responded I dropped the ball and choose not to respond.
All of this goes to two points... Don't mind read and really step back. I need to for my sanity and my future. To leave her life to her. I keep saying it. And I think I am doing it but I want to do more of it. I don't need her. I am a better person than when this started, I want to keep it going.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
