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Originally Posted By: alpha99
Incidentally, last few days show W listening to a few 'break up' songs via YouTube.

You know this ...... how?


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Her YT account is still logged in on my phone from a long time ago if I visit YT via phone's browser. From there it is possible to see her search and view history.

In my follow up post I mentioned that she has also listened to a clear love song sometimes this morning.

I've got so many things wrong by trying to mind read that I am serious trying to give up it up.

I got the car searching wrong. I got her buying a football kit wrong. I bet I got the football match tickets wrong too. I am no longer placing any significance on what she views on her phone unless it is something clearly very, very specific.


EDIT: Intel overload today. As I was writing the above out seconds ago I got a text. W must have booked hair appointment for herself for tomorrow before her night out. I know this because the hairdressers just sent a reminder text for the appointment. My phone shows a few similar texts from a couple of years ago. W must have given my number in at some point in the past.

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EDIT: Intel overload . . .



Indeed.


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EDIT: Intel overload . . .



Indeed.


Is that a good thing or not Starksy? I am trying to strike a balance between having intel on what W is up to/status of A etc and at the same time not becoming obsessed and extrapolating widly/mind read over every bit of info I receive. Any suggestions on how to handle this?


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I am trying to strike a balance between having intel on what W is up to/status of A etc and at the same time not becoming obsessed and extrapolating widly/mind read over every bit of info I receive. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

Yes. Log out of her YT account on your phone.

You seriously think that what she searches on YT gives ANY indication of the state of her affair? Personally, I find it borderline creepy.

Your focus is way off.


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I am trying to strike a balance between having intel on what W is up to/status of A etc and at the same time not becoming obsessed and extrapolating widly/mind read over every bit of info I receive. Any suggestions on how to handle this?

Yes. Log out of her YT account on your phone.

You seriously think that what she searches on YT gives ANY indication of the state of her affair? Personally, I find it borderline creepy.

Your focus is way off.



This. ^^^


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OK, thanks for the advice. I will try to follow it. I will log out and (try not to ) not check again.

Obviously I could see all her view/search history. The whole thing was unintentional. I found out it was still logged in by accident. Previous searches included the name of OM, sexual content etc. I'm not saying saying her watching cats on skateboards is giving me any insight to her state of mind but I did wonder if any of her search terms might ever include keywords like 'affair', 'husband', 'how to divorce' etc.


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OK, thanks for the advice. I will try to follow it. I will log out and (try not to ) not check again.

There, fixed it.

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The whole thing was unintentional.

Really.

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haha thanks for fixing it.

Yes, it really was unintentional. I guess that W had at some point used my phone to access her gmail account (linked to youtube) and it remained logged in. I only found out when at one time I googled something and got video search results, clicked on one, and was prompted to use YT app or browser. I clicked browser by mistake and later on noticed it wasn't my account. I never logged out and since then (many moons ago) it has of course remained logged in. Only post BD did I remember this and had a look at the view/search history.


BD - 30TH JAN 2015
S - 30TH JAN 2015
PA CONFIRMED - 16TH FEB 2015 (SINCE AT LEAST OCT 2014)
CONTINUAL TALK OF D
ME: 31
W: 28
T: 10yrs
M: 4.5yrs
D:5, S:6
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