"Am I wrong to get my hopes up that maybe there is a crack in the fog?"
Hi Burger, that does sound interesting from your W. And it's good that she is starting therapy - great, that's an action. The rest is all 'talk' and I wouldn't rush into feeling all hopeful. Best to keep your expectations at zero - then you won't be disappointed - only pleasantly surprised!
You'll have read on the forum that very few sitches get resolved quickly. Most take 9+ months. Many much longer. So yours would be 'quick' and I think it's best to assume that, yes your W is feeling some impact here - but there may be a winding road ahead.
What I would say is that it sounds as though your approach is working, and I would stick with it!
Good luck to you Burger :-)
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
I will keep my fingers crossed, and not get my hopes up. I will continue with what I'm doing and wait for her to reach out like I have been doing. It's tough not to try and influence her, but I will hold steady.
Me:43, WW:45 2 Kids: 21,22 Married: 23 Years Bomb: 01/2015 Separate Bedrooms: 02/2015 She left: 03/2015
Very busy weekend for me, lots of GAL activities. I fear I may have to cut back a bit on them, the chores are starting to pile up.
The WW had her weekly visit over the weekend. She re-iterated how she has a lot of work to do to make herself better, and how it will take a long time.
She mentioned that if we have a future together, she hopes she realizes it before it’s too late. That phrase worried me a little.
I’m going continue what I’m doing and hope she finds a good therapist who can help her.
Me:43, WW:45 2 Kids: 21,22 Married: 23 Years Bomb: 01/2015 Separate Bedrooms: 02/2015 She left: 03/2015
While very busy with my GAL activities this weekend I got a note from my WW.
She apologized for everything that has happened, how I created an environment that didn't meet her emotional needs, how old problems surfaced when all this started, . . .
I would be extremely careful in answering things like this in writing. Anything that could be used to show "culpability" is best done verbally, sadly.
Decided to take a break yesterday evening. No journal, no self-help book reading, and no workout. Just me and some hobby time. It was nice to put everything down for an evening and clear my head a bit.
I also received confirmation that the WW has her first therapist appointment scheduled.
Me:43, WW:45 2 Kids: 21,22 Married: 23 Years Bomb: 01/2015 Separate Bedrooms: 02/2015 She left: 03/2015
I think I may have been suckered into a temperature check by her with the note over the weekend. I've been very happy with the few little emails from her now and then. I felt bad after reading her note about she has lost everything and is all alone.
This afternoon I realized that none of the 'talk' really means anything. I need to look for actions. I have no proof that she has stopped her internet flirting, or that she has 'broken' up with her EA men.
Me:43, WW:45 2 Kids: 21,22 Married: 23 Years Bomb: 01/2015 Separate Bedrooms: 02/2015 She left: 03/2015
