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So I have a sincere question. Neither of my Ds wants to church tomorrow. And I am going to allow that. So the question is, if we aren't going, is it rude if I don't tell H? Remember that he and his band have a key role in the service, and also he'll probably be getting a million questions where I am after my abrupt departure this week. Most people don't know we are S. Should I give him a heads up?



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Personally I wouldn't but I'm not sure how that fits DBing I do t have any sitchs like that. Go with what's right for you. Take care. Rd

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Thanks RD.

I know this isn't a major life decision, but anyone else want to weigh in?



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Given the totality of the situation - your recent departure and the overall friendliness of many communications with your h - I don't think a brief text could hurt. I don't think its rude if you don't do it, but its a nice courtesy if you do.

It would be different if it were just you and not the entire family being absent.


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I agree with Raliced on this one. Don't have to, but still should.


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Or I could just go without the girls......

Why is this hard?



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So...the decision is that I will go to my own church (the other choice was go to the one I visited over the summer, I never intended to stay home). Because I don't want it to look like I'm hiding from anyone, and because I don't want H to have to deal with questions about me. I do think there will be a point where I explore other options, but today isn't the day.

Yesterday was a NC day. If I still notice, then I'm not where I want to be yet.



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Good decision I think.

By redlines I meant your limits/boundaries.

As in will you take him back irrespective of how he behaves during the separation or are there things that would mean that it doesn't matter how committed he might decide to be, it would be too much for you to get past. For example if he committed a felony (lots of more likely things but its an example.)

Just wondering about your side of the decision really


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