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So, H and I have been separated since Nov 1 2014. At first I was begging and pleading and saying I'll change. And he was very mean and cold. And one day I stopped doing that. BC be posted this thing on Facebook that pissed me off. I confronted him about it and said it was disrespectful. He took it down, then unfriended me. We called me right after and apology for everything he said and did. And wants us to be civil. Said we are not like this. And he unfriended me BC social media is tearing us apart. We are better than that. This was 2 weeks in. That Thursday, I was over seeing my dog and we went outside and we ended up sleeping together. Oops. And the day before he was saying he misses and all this stuff and texting me like crazy. Said he cant sleep with me, hes seeing someone. (Well then dont text me). He said you cant tell anyone. I dont want her to know. Then, we were friendly but only talked about splitting things up. I was trying to detach and he kept texting and one day. He said do you want me to stop talking to you? I said sometimes. And sometimes i want a different text from you. He said I'm not going to text you I want you back. I said not that. Just anything else but splitting things up. Well an hr later he starts talking to me about other things. IThenn't mean he had to do it. Well I went over that night. And he asked me to stay longer we watched movies and he looked at me and said I still love you. I will always love you, you know that. I said i will too. Then he kissed me with love it was intense. We made love again. He asked me to stay the night. He called his girl so she woukdnt call later. He said he loved her. I.got mad, he panicked bc i was.leaving and be said no no dont leave im.so conflicted. Well, i stayed. He asked if i was seeinf someone. Insaid no but talking. He kept asking questions. He said i shoukd, it would distract me. I said i dont feel.the need to fill yhe void with a person. It avoids things. I said,you have moved on, and you say yiu cant let me go, you miss me, and love.me and thinj of me constantly.
They've been together a month or so. And yes, I know for a fact he was faithful. His job (which she's a cashier at his work. His job was an appliance specialist so he was always busy. Came.home for lunch and was always with me.) Well anyway, she has a crazy ex-bf too. The stories.he told me. But, they have slept together and said I love you already. And get this. A couple days ago decided to move in with her in Jan BC he doesn't want to stay with his parents anymore. Wow, crushed. But, it has to be a rebound. He says he's happy. He says he found what he's looking for. Idk. But. Just a couple days before saying he still loved me. Then he said I.don't love you the same. I.must let you go. He texted me this morning wondering when I'm getting my dog cuz he's leaving the house. I said next week. He thought I said Xmas. But he read it again and said oops can't read and i joked with him. He asked if i was still sick ( he got me sick the day in stayed over. I took care of him) i said I'm better thanks for meeting me and making sure I was OK. I asked if he is better. He said almost. I said, that's a bummer well at least its almost there! He said I'm gonna miss you friend.I said oh ya? He said yup. I said I'm going to miss. You too. Told him he's a good man and he said I'm pretty great. Then he said have a great day. I made a comment about his work. Sonhe knows I'm still on his side. And I feel I have a chance still. They can't work. We have such a history.

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coco2 #2517818 12/16/14 06:03 PM
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Welcome to the board

Get out and GAL.

DETACH.


Believe none of what he says and half of what he does.

Have NO EXPECTATIONS.

Take care of yourself, breathe, eat, sleep, exercise.

You are on moderation right now on the forum.
SO post in small frequent posts until you get off of it.

Your H is giving you a GIFT.
THE GIFT OF TIME.

USE it wisely.

Knowledge is Power - Sir Francis Bacon


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Ya, he texted me later that day and said he wanted to spend time with me, misses me. So we do, but he still wants to try and move on.
I decided yesterday that I would just disappear. No communication for 24 hours. He hasn't even tried to contact me and he usually makes some excuse to talk to me. His actions say I want to be with you, I'm sneaking around my new girl to be with you. But, he then still decides to not be with me. He makes a statement "I must move on" like new trying to stick to his guns. I guess I have to let it run it's course. He will see it for what it is. And when I'm not around or having someone to talk to he will miss me even more. BC he keeps missing me even though he has a new girl that he has only been with for a month or so. I mean sure, he feels less emotion about me BC he has a distraction but, is it a rebound???


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