Busting this Divorce - Standing Firm

[25yearsmlc]

PS

HP, don't reveal the intel (but stop snooping!) and do not involve her mom.

There is no upside to that, at least none that would last and be meaningful imo.

[HPoirot]

Thank you 25 and Sandi. I won't expose. I can see how that is a weak move. I do want to save my M and I do want my W to want to come back on her own one day. I see now that will be a long way from now if it ever happens.

Based on my last conversation with W and considering the knowledge here... does my sitch have any hope now? I know all I can really do is just be better me. I do see how my OM trashing has not helped me. It was good to hear W say she thought of me a lot yesterday regarding how separation would feel bad. But in tonight's conversation and she was her centered self tonight, she repeated a few times about she now considers us separated. She sounded very final like in her last angry email. Should I go to mc with her or the couples weekend in January? Should I stick to my guns on transparency... or just trust her that she's not contacting OM?

I'm thinking there's nothing else to do but keep being my better self and stay away from her R talking. I'm wondering now if pulling way back is a bad idea now. What do you think?

It was a calm, even nice, but discouraging conversation. She seemed very tired and sad but determined for me to not reach her. No more words then. I can't keep making this mistake!