Well I just broke the news to my dad's side of the family. I'm not nearly as close to them, I basicaly only see or talk to tbem at thanksgiving, Christmas, and a summer get-together. I never found it appropriate to call a bunch of them and tell them what was up. It wasn't very fun, and it was especially awkward because the topic came up when one of my aunts asked if we were planning on having another baby.
I also had a text exchange this morning with WAW's cousin, and probably her best friend. She texted me, initially. I hadn't talked to her since the summer. She just said she misses and loves me. It meant a lot. She said she had hoped WAW would have wanted to date me by now but "life happens, I guess". She also said their aunt said, "I don't care, Card29 is my family. I'm getting him a Christmas present. If he's not coming here I'll mail it." That made me laugh and smile. I'm thankful no one (that I know of) who is close to her is really supporting her move. I don't think shes being ostracized, either. It just seems like the healthiest environment that I could hope for regarding the hopes of her giving our M another shot.
I was a little bummed tonight for it to be thanksgiving, everyone really happy, lots of great food, and my W is out to dinner with some 60-yr old guy to network with him. Man how things have changed in 12 months.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
WAW was pretty crappy this morning. She was supposed to come by at 9am to take D2 to her mom's house for the weekend. I got D2 up, dressed, fed her breakfast, packed her bag. On top of that I had a plumber at the house, trying to get him to give me a statement saying our fireplace is safe (requirement of our buyer). WAW was 2-1/2 hrs late (she let me know a couple of times about delays). At 11:00, as she was on her way over, I called and asked what she wanted to do about lunch for D2. She was pissed. Mad that I didn't ready feed her, or something (she normally doesn't eat lunch until 11:30 or 12:00). Mad that I didn't call her sooner. I thought I was doing well to call her at all, seeing that she was supposed to be here 2 hrs earlier and it was her trip with D2, her plan, etc. She was crabby and rude the whole time she was here. I did my best to not reciprocate those feelings, but not cower to them, either. Just let them go and do whatever they want, while I enjoy my final moments of thanksgiving weekend with D2.
I don't know if she was hungover, had a bad sleep, so ply in a bad mood...sometimes i almost think WAW tries to make me hate her so it would be easier for her to file. (I also think that thought is ridiculous, but it's still there sometimes).
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
I haven't read it yet. I'd forgotten about it, so thanks for reminding me. I just went on Amazon to buy it, and it said I'd already bought the Kindle version. I forgot I did! I'll start reading it today.
Still going through craziness with the house, home inspection. HOPEFULLY we crossed the final major hurdle today. We'll see soon.
I went to our nephew's (SIL's S8) birthday party, 3 hours away yesterday. WAW and D2 were already there for their Thanksgiving. I met everyone on Sunday at the bowling alley. It was fun, no problems with WAW. Everyone remarked on their surprise at how well we're getting along, and also on their shock at how much weight WAW has lost (by my count, 45 pounds since June, and she wasn't that very big to start with). I think she's starting to teeter into the mildly unhealthy range. Yesterday she didn't eat anything until almost 7:00 pm, after she was almost sick from dehydration/exhaustion/etc. She blamed it on the stress from her school (end of semester this week). I hope it's that and not an eating disorder, or something.
We caravanned (our two cars) back to town. I had a real moment of weakness during one of our stops. I really wanted to hug her and tell her how much I miss her. I ended up with just a one-armed hug while she was nuzzling in close to kiss D2 while I was holding her. She asked if I was okay and I said yes. I'm glad I didn't go further, but I do want to somehow convey that I want our M to be with HER, not because I want more time with D2 or any other reason. Honestly, I'm no longer worried about D2's future. I'm not worried about finances, having more kids, health insurance, finding another love, or anything else. I just want our M because I think we're perfect for each other, we were just unskilled (plus her depression). And I want her to know that because I've wondered if she thinks I want the M just for the peripheral stuff I just mentioned. I just need to know when and how to tell her.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
Card, I needyo find a way to inform my H of this, too. He thinks I only want to stay together for D. It's hard to convey wanting him without it being seen as pursuing. Any ideas on that??
