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I have a thread regarding to file for D first or not. Wanted to get other DB experiences regarding how that has worked or not worked for others to get a WAS attention or if it made things worse.

Filing just to be first is absolutely a bad idea. I'm sure of that.


Me: 37, W: 36
S6, S3
M: 8
T:11
Discovered 1st A: 9/3/14
Began DB: 9/20/14
W "ended" 1st A repeatedly
Discovered at least 3 more A's, filed 10/29/14

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The problem is that throughout the whole process, you kept having "expectations" of how you thought your W should act. Then when she didn't, you would get upset and then go back on your "changes". Those changes are for you to be a better man regardless of whether or not your W reacts to those changes.

Go back and read DB. Filing for D isn't slowing it down. You're using it as a ploy to trick your W into going back to you. It doesn't work that way.

In the cases where it did wake up the WAS, it was only because the LBS was absolutely done with the relationship and didn't really want the WAS any more.


M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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